Posts by Sassy

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Secret Santa II......

by Gadget in

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friends

i've just read in another thread that due to circumstances the secret santa for this year hasn't been able to happen, so i want to try and organise another one!.

according to the lady at the post office, the closing date for international mail to be delivered before xmas is this week, but for post on the same continent we still have a few weeks so i'll try and take that into account so everyone can have their prezzy before christmas day.

if everyone who wants to join in can pm or email me at [email protected] with their details before 12noon sunday 30th november(uk time), i'll try and get the details back to you by sunday night.

Sassy

I am definately interested.. do we have a price range so things are kind of a fair exchange?

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Emotional Terrorism.

by Englishman in

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friends

sirona's thread about bullying got me thinking.

there's another type of bullying, which, imho, can be far worse.

i'm talking about psychological bullying, where fear of a persons hysterical reaction forces us to act in manner that fits in with what the person wants.

Sassy

I know the topic was emotional terrorism in regard to even faking feelings, action to intimidate or manipulate. My first husband actually was that and life with him was horrific and it took me a long time to heal from those scars. I do think though that what we go through when leaving the WTS and how we are treated is also an emotional terrorism. They manipulate things so that you are either guilted into feeling pressure to come back or tried to make you feel valulesss because of your actions and their acusations. Its a good think I have a full head of thick hair because I have been losing on the average 20 hairs a day. I know it is from the stress of dealing with the harassment from my decision to leave. If that isn't emotional terrorism, I don't know what it is.. and that is why I want to move somewhere that no one knows I ever was a JW, with a new phone number and no forwarding address.

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It's only food!!

by caligirl in

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friends

yesterday, my jw stepson flew in for a visit.

i was hoping that things had changed, but yesterday was the same.

my husband says i grew up in a country club congregation.

Sassy

We used to have turkey dinners with lots of JWs on Thanksgiving, since everyone had the day off and turkeys were on sale. Never bothered us. I guess it was different to go to someone's house who is having it FOR Thanksgiving though. Although I used to go with my dad (an non JW) to relatives Thanksgiving dinners when I was younger as well.

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Should the JW congregation keep a wriiten record of sins commited ?

by fearnotruth22 in

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friends

any jw that has been disciplined by a judicial comiitee has the particulars of the sin he has been didsiplined for in a file kept by the elders inside a file cabinet containing other such records in that little room in the back .

that information is aceesible to elders with the key to the file cabinet.

years may go by but the file remains, even when a jw dies the file remains until elders wish to throw it out.

Sassy

I was told once by friends that when you move congregations, only so much travels with your records.. that if you go from cong to new cong, you launder so to speak your records and some things get left behind and out. It really didn't make sense to me though. It seems that they would keep it all intact and forward everything. Not that I like it, but it is what I would expect. Its funny too, when you end up in a committee meeting and they ask, have you ever been in trouble for 'say sexual activity' before? you sit there and think.. oh yeah.. you have read the records, you already know the answer, you just want to see if I tell you the truth.. or if I admit I have a patter of disobeying when it comes to this behavior.

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What Are You Thankful For???

by minimus in

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friends

since today is the "worldly" day of thanksgiving for many of us, it is a good time to reflect on what we can be thankful for.....anything come to mind?

Sassy

I am thankful for many things, the most of all for the awesome man in my life who treats me like a treasure, the friends I have in spite of leaving the JWs, the bridges that have been made between my estranged children and myself. I'm also thankful to have been welcomed here for it has been theraputic and appreciated. I'm also building new friendships because of being here with people who understand about being dysfunctional from a JW past. It is so nice to have someone to talk to who can relate.

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DIETS & HOLIDAYS

by morty in

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friends

i hate them and they suck....

do you have any suggestions?

i dont know about you, but i always end up putting on at least 2-5 lbs on, over the holidays....why can't i have fun like everyone else and not suffer any side effects?

Sassy

I never count caleries around times when I know there will be so much food around and expectations to eat by friends. Not start a diet any way then. Other wise if you fall off, it is hard to get back on.

I don't plan on starting on a program to lose a few pounds till after New Years.

Happy Holidays to you too my friend.

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Puerto Vallarta, Mexico

by copsec in

jw
friends

anyone live there or been there?

is it great?

i am going for a week in february for a little r & r and really looking forward to it.

Sassy

I just pulled out my album and looked through it from that cruise. I mislead you. It is Mazatlan that has the ordinance that says all beaches are public. I don't know that it is the same in Puerto Vallarta. When we were in Puerto Vallarta we paid for a taxi/driver to bring us up into the Rain Forest as well as see the set of Predator. It was really cool.

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Was I mean?

by KKLUV155 in

jw
friends

i think i did something mean the other day.

some jw ladies had been visiting my friends house for a while now leaving the mags.

my friend doesn't want to tell them to get lost b/c she is too nice.

Sassy

I remember once when I just a youth, I was going door to door and we left an old magazine in the doors of those not home. One woman came home before we finished the building and must have found the magazine in her door for she came out after us and got in our face and threw the magazine on the ground and smashed it there with her foot and screaming at us, showing her discontent. To be honest it was traumatic for me. Her anger was so evident and the way she handled herself was meant to show it upon us. It was experiences like that which stuck in my mind and never left me, causing me to be fearful and tramatized everytime I went in service, wondering if someone would show their anger a step farther somehow. I am so thrilled not to be under the guilt of being forced to go in service now.

I can't see now that I have left the JWs, even though I hate what the religion stole from me, I still coudn't be mean or trash something in front of the people just to hurt them. They are just like we were, still blind and really only trying to save peoples lives, as futile as that attempt truly is. Actually many of them I feel sorry for. Some are really good people and they will sacrifice so much because of being misguided by the religion.

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