Posts by lurkernomore

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Hi Everyone. Answer to prayer countdown...

by Stumpy in

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friends

i've been lurking for about 3 months now and thought i'd better finally sign up.

you have all been an immense help to me as i have come to realize that this isn't the truth so i want to say a great big thank you!

what a crazy, emotional ride it is to finally face the truth about the doubts that i have carried for many years.

lurkernomore

When I first discovered TTATT I made it my mission to be as objective as possible. I like to think I can see through bs most of the time, which was very important in making my decision to leave all things JW.

With this in mind I would pray most days, (usually when out with the dog as this was the most quiet part of the day for me) asking Jehovah (if he really did exist) to help me find answers to the things I found out. Funny enough he's remained silent on all my requests for help...

I wish you both all the best for the future. It'll take some time to adjust but life's a lot less stressful, at least for us anyway ;)

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Why do we get TTATT and others don't?

by quest81 in

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friends

i have thought about how ttatt came full circle for me.

how the connecting the dots was simple and just made sense,.

how silos of information are literally at our fingertips today.. why is it that the ones we love cannot get ttatt?.

lurkernomore

I don't know if my experience is similar to anyone else's?! Looking back on things, I gradually stopped a lot of jw activity before learning TTATT. For the best part of 2 1/2 years before I first encountered the UN scandal I hadn't answered at meetings and only made a token appearance in service. Having our first child was great as i could now 'legitimately' count time without knocking on doors :)

I always felt I wasn't doing enough but at the same time couldn't bring myself to make more of an effort.

I believe I'd made a subconscious decision that things weren't right for some reason. Perhaps the monotony of it all just got too much, I've always got bored quickly when I was younger and remember the meetings droning on about the same old bs week after week. I don't think there was a week that went by when porn or masterbation wasn't discussed!!!

I totally agree with everyone though, the triggers seem different from one person to another. I guess it boils down to what TTATT someone is exposed to and what stage they're at in life.

The UN NGO scandal got the ball rolling for me... these days the protection of peadophiles is my no.1 pet hate of the org.

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POLL: Will You Be Attending The Memorial & If You Are---Why?

by minimus in

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friends

i was just invited.

i thanked my old elder friend and he left.

(i'm not going).

lurkernomore

Nope!

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Has anybody been guilted/emotionally blackmailed into attending the 2015 Memorial?

by Bucholz in

hello everybody, i was wondering if anyone has been guilted or emotionally blackmailed into attending the memorial this year.

something along the lines of "if you loved your family you would at least attend the memorial".

i myself haven't attended in 5 years.

lurkernomore

So far nothing. The elders have been unusually quiet for us since our abrupt exit. My mother knows I don't think it's the truth and she hasn't tried to preach at me since!

Here's hoping it continues lol

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a situation I know of and the mind set of the elders.

by joe134cd in

ok here's the situation i know of.. a women was in a situation where she was forced to reveal a hidden sin and was given a private reproof for it.

before this she had an other wise clean slate.

btw the reproof was for an unrelated matter and had nothing to do with apostasy.

lurkernomore

Hi Joe,

We've found exactly the same thing. I still do work for some wittos from time to time and till now (we've been physically out since August last year) only one of the elderly women has asked when I'm coming back to meetings.

It used to perplex us. Now we see it as more of a blessing in disguise. People still wave to me in the street and say hello but no one can be arsed to pop round or have even tried to get us to come back.

The really ironic thing, as was already mentioned somewhat, is that I see them out in service all the time trying to recruit new drones but they don't care about the ones who leave. So much for genuine friends and Christian love.

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Who leaves first, the husband or wife?

by snugglebunny in

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when it comes to a simple matter of no longer believing the teachings of jw's, it appears to me that it's more common for the husband to make the first move to leave the religion.

lurkernomore

In our case we woke up together :)

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How do you respond to JW family?

by Laika in

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for those who have left and are still in contact with jw family, how do you usually respond when they bring up jw stuff, i.e.

start talking about the nearness of armageddon or things like that.. i usually say nothing and just let it pass but i'm considering changing tact to something more confrontational, less because i want to change their mind and more because i find it tiresome.

thoughts?

lurkernomore

My wife and I made it clear that my mother is free to talk about jw stuff as it's part of her life, as long as she doesn't try to force her opinions us!

So far so good but her incessant dropping in of something someone said in a talk, or some other random jw bs is starting to wear thin. Watch this space I guess lol!

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Please Welcome me

by Sofia Lose in

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friends

have lurked here for many, many years.

female, latina, middle-aged, born-in, 3rd generation jw, northeast usa.

my fate is to continue to play the game 'till death do us part because the very strong and tangled web of friends, family, business, etc.

lurkernomore

Welcome Sofia!

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Do you feel bad throwing away literature?

by stuckinarut2 in

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so do you feel bad throwing away your old literature?.

what about your old song book or bible from your early days in the org?.

if so, is it because of sentimentality, monetary cost or because it might be 'sacred' ?.

lurkernomore

No not at all. Had to make space for my wife's Game of Thrones collection :)

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Introducing myself

by maksutov in

my name is russ, i'm 40 years old, from the uk, and i left the jws nearly 5 years ago.

i've been a member of the yuku board throughout that time, so there are probably some on here who know me already.

there seems to be more activity over here at the moment, so i thought i'd pop in and say hi.i was raised as a jw, started questioning it when i was 16, but there was no internet back then (well, no www anyway) so i got sucked right in and got baptized when i was 18. auxiliary pioneered on and off for a couple of years, then became a ministerial servant.

lurkernomore

Hey Russ (maksutov) ANOTHER fellow brit here lol. Welcome to the board!

I wish you all the best with helping your wife see the light. I was lucky enough to have mine leave with me a few months ago, so always hope for the best for people in your situation.