This is a topic that no doubt rattle around in many of our minds.
I didn't want to DA, either.
I didn't attend any J/C's or appeal their decision to DF me.
It's only been a few days since the announcement and this is shaping up to be the best week in my life!
That being said, admitting apostasy and getting DF'd in absentia might be the best hope of waking up others that have known you for decades.
Shock the hell out of them!
Making them DF you is by far the better course than DA'ing, in my opinion...