....I have more respect for people who actually step up and say..."THIS IS BULLS**T AND I DONT BELIEVE !"
that is wonderful, but I deal with the person who is dealing with the depression of not being prepared
we have had so many folks at our home who only wish they had done it differently or waited till they had prepared better
to believe as you do that ONE RULE fits all is very short sighted allow me to give you 2 real life examples
1. A single woman became a jw in college at 21, at 26 she realized this was bogus- she had no family who were jw, when she left her ENTIRE FAMILY told her we understand that you were just trying to find yourself, we figured let her try out her new religion and like any other fad it will get old-
so for her there was no lose and so when she told me she was going to DA it was NO LOSE
CASE 2 -
a married woman whose husband is an elder and she has 3 kids and has been pioneering for the last 18yrs no job skills and her family and his family are both "PILLARS' in the congo-
after learning this aint the truth she too wanted to "Make a Statement" i guess much like you-- "I'm Freeeeeee!!!"
but we discussed after she makes that annoucment thrusday night what will happen to her on Friday Morning-
the issue of no skill, no money, no job, possible loss of her child and i Know!!!!!!!!!!!111 cause in my bookstudy was a DR who worked for the Society as an Expert Witness in child custody cases, she traveled all over th US testifyiing with the wt lawyers or ones favorble to wt position Keeping NON-JW parents from aruging that the religion was harmful to the kids
so here she is no cash no skill, no job and no how will she even argue that the kids would be better off with her
so we suggested fading and to take the time to build a new cliente of friends, which she did, she came off the list, got a job, and started making her move to get out, she started talking to her kids and found out THEY WERE READY TO GO
TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT she fading , got herself setup and was able to get joint custody and with the money she has and what he give her she is able to make it- just recently since he was no longer able to serve as an elder due to family problems
he soon found that all his friends were CONDITIONAL AND IT made him take a fressh look at things, currently he is reading Rays book- despite living in separate homes they are spending time together "I think he is getting alittle "Nookey" while he is over there as well smile
my point is her life would have been entirely different, many times each person must take into consideration thier cirucmstances not whether YOU will respect them or not
as you stated this is a pet peeve, well it is also mine as well
my wife and i have worked with so many jw here in Wash DC and we know that there is no One size fits all
I don't mean to Dog you per say, but your comment in my view shows how little consideration you are giving to others who may not be in your circumstances
you see i say and Advocated that same mindset that you have displayed when i was a jw
if sister old can pioneer why can't you sister young, yes the One size fits all and in the real world that is not the case
and the same when we leave wt the way you or i leave may not be the way another person needs to leave and they SHOULD NOT BE VIEWED AS BEING SOMEHOW LESS
just my 2
