"Whiner" was in my original writing. I would not have used it here were I to write afresh, for it is an insult. Perhaps I shouldn't have used it. Sorry.
The things Sparky1 relatesI attribute mostly to backbiting and gossip, which happens anywhere. In fact, the closer knit an organization is, the more likely it is to happen. It is just people being people, though if you are the target of it, it seems much more.
As to promises that did not turn out equated to lies, whenever someone throws one of them at me, I say: "Oh, we changed that." And why not? It's not a piece of cake looking into the future - everyone knows that - so if you screw up, you back out and tackle the subject anew. Their are plenty of examples in the Bible of faithful ones doing or saying things that did not pan out.
Someone will say: "Here they have said we don't make mistakes and here they have said we sometimes do." I will reply that we changed that, too. It's a little embarrassing, but it happens. Only a ten-year old holds his breath and turns blue over such things, though I will admit that there are many ten-year olds.
Apparently, God is cool with it, even if he is not thrilled. If he was steamed, he would short-circuit jw.org so that it only read in English and Pig Latin, instead of the 900 languages it does read in. You understand that I use this as a representation of all that is being done to spread the JW message, not as a feat unto itself. If there was a working substitute somewhere, only absent the jerks, I would go there. But there isn't, and it becomes apparent to me that God puts up with jerks even as he is trying to overhaul them because that's what so many of us are.
The Witness world does its best to be Bible based and thus is 180 degrees from the non-Witness world in which Christianity will surely end up the loser. When Jesus was brought before Pilate, he didn't sweet-talk his way out of it, did he? and he said his followers would be as popular as he. So if one leaves the JW world, they have to adapt to a world they may have known little about previously, and this gives rise to stress, even bitterness if one comes to feel that they were not prepared for life.
Many Witnesses burn bridges leading to the other side. I am atypical in that I don't. That's not to say I travel those bridges frequently, but they are available if I want to see what's going on over there or even to communicate. It was an experiment coming here, and I probably will not remain long, and I apologize to whoever started up this thread, for I have stolen it. I will not steal her next one. Obviously, jehovah's witnesses .com is not the Assembly Hall, but without doing a lot of research, which I didn't want to do, I didn't know just what the makeup would be. Better to stick a toe in the water and see what happens. To a certain extent, it is because I am a writer, and I enjoy the challenge of navigating difficult shoals.
Everyone must admit I've been a good boy, unless the mere representation of the other side is to be a bad boy. I have not insulted, or if I have, only a little - certainly less than I have been slammed here by some. I have resisted many attempts to draw me into shoving matches or pissing contests. Many places you do not go primarily for reasons of times management. Personal stories you do not weigh in on because you know you are seeing only a tip of an iceberg - perhaps if the berg were to rotate the tip would look altogether different.
It's not been my intention to troll or otherwise act despicably.