I lost my baby
My daughter Rachel was pregnant a couple of summers ago when I took her to San Francisco for vacation. Just as we got back, she had pain and some bleeding and it turned out that she had an ectopic pregnancy and went straight into surgery. The doctors told us all that when a baby is miscarried, that is nature's way of voiding a child that has something terribly wrong with it.
She didn't take any phone calls for a couple of days. Then she waited for four months to begin trying again. Now she has delivered, in February, a beautiful baby boy - my first grandchild.
And I'd be willing to bet that you do the same thing. Although I'm very sorry your first pregnancy turned out as it did, when you start feeling badly about it, remember my little story and look forward to trying again and this time delivering your baby. I'll bet your mother's natural built-in love for her grandchild will over-ride the WTBTS's add-on rules.
Will be watching for your next announcement that you're preggers.
Much love to you both.
Dear Kelpie and Rick,
First of all, I was terribly saddened to hear of your loss.
Second, this is in no way an omen of some sort, because you are taking a new direction with your life--away from the borg.
These things happen for a reason. I'm certain your doctor explained that sometimes the fetus isn't developing correctly and to abort is the natural reaction.
Life is so precious. To hold your tiny, tiny fetus in your hands and know that it was a part of the both of you...that was something else, my dear. One minute alive and the next gone forever. Pregnancy really affects a woman internally and emotionally and it will take some time to recover.
In time you will come to terms with your loss. Grieving for a lost life is a personal process, no matter what the circumstances. I'm sure you will be there for each other, and that in the future, there will be children to love.
Take care of yourselves.
My wife has a condition that aborts a fetus within the first three to four weeks unless she is put on some kind of drastic bedrest/hormone program. My wife has had one miscarriage, and she was dealing with that for a long time. It will get better. Just don't rush into anything, and make sure you talk to your husband about it.
Many hugs (((((((((((((K AND R)))))))))))))
I'm so sorry!
I understand, because I am in the large majority of people who faced losing their first child. I was 8 months, and after a picture perfect pregnancy, her heart just stopped beating. I also went through the blame, anger, pain, and confusion as to why this happened to me and to her. The thing that helped me the most was a support group at my hospital. It just really helped to talk to people who had been through the same thing, who were feeling the same things, and who could cry not just in sympathy, but in empathy. I am so sorry this happened, I would not wish this pain on my worst enemy, and I just hope you get through it without beating yourself up. And SheilaM was right, don't wait forever to try again. I was blessed with my wonderful son less than a year after losing my angel girl.
Much love to you and Rick,
(((((((((Kelpie and Rick)))))))))) ((((( hugs to all the others here who have been thru similar circumstances )))))
I am so sorry to hear of your terrible loss. I wish I had words to make you feel better, but I don't. Just know you are in my thoughts, and if I were there I would give you both huge hugs.
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((*TRIPLE HUGS FOR KELPIE AND RICK!*))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I am so sorry for your loss.................I didn't read the other posts, but am sure everyone told you it wasn't anything you did or didn't do that made this happen.
It just happens. As for flushing, a close friend of mine did the same thing and was upset with herself for it, but I think it is instinctive. Don't torment yourself over any of this experience. Just go through the grief process. You will never forget this baby and the way your Mom came through for you. That is a plus, isn't it??
Be happy and look forward to your wedding and another baby one day.
kelpies....many condolances from Texas...be good to yourself and send my regards to your husband...take care dear.