Thank you for the compliment. I certainly have become more and more perceptive since leaving dub land. Of course, after leaving the WBTS, the only way to go is up, it seems.
I'll do my best to answer your questions (without giving too much information for those who want to read "The Celestine Prophecy').
The book basically talks about everyone's inherent NEED for energy, which they get mostly from love. In our early youth we begin to demand (and get) this energy from our parents and other people of great influence in our life. The control drama that they are already experiencing directly reflects the one that their kids will end up with.
As an example, (and not to pick on Scooby here, but) Scooby Snax tends to offer up questions to get opinions from others. Then when the answers he gets are not to his liking, he tends to criticize them. When this happens to a child, eventually he stops opening up to his parents, and there is a subsequent loss of energy/love. This would cause the child to likely have an aloof control drama, where he, later in life has a hard time offering his TRUE feelings to other people.
Intimidators are people that are violent physically or emotionally, even going so far as to cause great fear in their kids. They tend to cause their kids to have a "poor me" control drama (thus limiting their full potential) OR the kids go down the same path as their parents and as soon as they have the opportunity they use the same "Intimidator" control drama.
Hopefully that gives you an idea of how this happens, without me saying too much.