I'm living with nausea

by kairos 68 Replies latest members private

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  kairos

  Things are getting worse at home and I feel very hopeless.

  I wake up in pain and have lost my appetite.

  I have lost 10 pounds in the last 30 days.

  Don't worry, I've been to a doctor and been tested and scanned and have come up "healthy".

  This is purely stress and anxiety based.

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  My born-in JW wife has suggested, maybe I should find a replacement.

  She hates seeing me in physical pain and says she is NOT going to change.

  This hurts me as we have always had a fantastic marriage for nearly 20 years.

  I do not want to leave her, but she tells me not to live with the hope that she'll wake up.

  She thinks I'll give myself an ulcer.

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  I'm thinking I may need counciling of some sort.

  This disgusting cult makes me want to puke...Literally.

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  I was starting to level off and feel pretty good, then that elder decided to show up and now I'm worse.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/members/private/288882/1/Surprise-Elder-visit-today
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  baltar447

  I'm sorry. Getting yourself some therapy would probably help you.
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  Iamallcool

  try yogi lemon ginger tea
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  FadeToBlack

  Or as Greybeard is advocating, you might want to get in contact someone who can score you a few doobies. Your stress will go down, your appetite will come back. Maybe it is a good time to have 'that' discussion. Sometimes, marriages fail. My wife (still active) and I are currently just 2 people living under the same roof. She is not a bad person and not hard-core JW, but still - not what it could have been.
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  DesirousOfChange

  Sounds like counseling is a good idea.

  FADE to BLACK -- you might give it a go as well.

  The 3rd party (counselor) can tell your wife things that you can't.

  Doc
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  kairos

  My stash recently turned to ash...

  Been helping me since April.

  It works.
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  NAVYTOWN

  It sounds like you would really benefit by talking to a therapist. The status quo just isn't working for you. Your wife sounds as though she won't change. A therapist can help your sort through your feelings about all this, and look at different options. Why not give it a try, at least go for an initial consultation. What can it hurt? Whatever you decide to do, I hope things work out OK.
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  kairos

  This day which really got off to a very bad start, took a turn for the better tonight.

  We reaffirmed our love for each other and restated our commitment to each other, whatever we do in life.

  Needless to say, I'm feeling much better.

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  Things couldn't have gone better.
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  Perry

  Have you tried witnessing to her from the bible?

  JW's readily admit that their message is quite different than what the apostles preached. So, how can they expect to escape this judgment:

  But though we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed. Gal. 1: 8

  It sounds like she is feeling sorry for you while imagining her own superior religious position. However, it is you who should be displaying your sympathy for her as one who will fall under the judgment above. I would repeat this scripture over an extended period of time until it starts to sink in.

  Also, how can she expect to grow to perfection in the New World when the bible clearly states: Therefore by the deeds of the law there shall no flesh be justified in his sight - Rom 3:20 ?

  Other scriptures the JW's desperately need to hear:

  ...it is appointed unto man once to die and then judgment - Hebrews 9:27

  But we are all as an unclean thing , and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags; - Is 64:6

  As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one: - Romans 3:10

  Three times Jesus says you must be born again or you cannot see or enter the kingdom:

  Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.

  Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother's womb, and be born? 5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. 6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. 7 Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again. - John 3: 3

  Doesn't your wife want life in the kingdom? Why is it then she is being disobedient to Jesus? Why is she choosing to not believe God?

  I would tell her that if she wants to live her life under the curse of Galatians 1: 8, she is free to do it; but you are just too afraid of this scripture to change the Christian message over what was preached by the apostles.

  Man up and lead your house.
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  blondie

  why is it "only stress"? I would go to a counselor (alone) or a psychiatrist.

  Have you gone to a gasterologist. I did and found that one of my meds had damaged my liver. I'm better now but I lost 70 pounds before things leveled off.

  Blondie