the insomnia is the worst part of this. I'm getting maybe 3-4 hrs of sleep at night, falling asleep at work...
breakup guilt
by fresh prince of ohio 92 Replies latest social relationships
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nonjwspouse
Therapy, asap.
She is a big girl and she will be able to handle herself, maybe not exactly the way you think it should be done, but she will handle it.
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fresh prince of ohio
With 2.5 beers in my stomach all this angst over the past two months seems so silly. What the hell is wrong with me? Lolol
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fresh prince of ohio
Is my desire to send her an email asking how she's doing just my codependency trying to get the upper hand?
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nonjwspouse
Only you know the answer to that FPOO. Could see see it as a chance, or change of mind? If so, then don't do it.
If you decide to call, keep it short, and focused on her progress.
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fresh prince of ohio
Spoke with her on the phone this morning for about an hour. She's doing fine. So relieved.
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fresh prince of ohio
....aaaaaannnnndddd now i wanna get back together with her. She seemed....different from before. Very calm and together.
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nonjwspouse
FPOO. please plese give yoursellf time to figure out what YOU want. Not not drag her into your decisions process, it is causing unessesary harm for you both when you do that.
You need time to clear your thoughts, to learn more about youraelf. You both need time for personal reflection, deep reflection.
You are a caring good man that needs to recognise the difference between a rescue and real lifelong commitment. Rescuing is for the very good at heart, but it leads to many resentments as you already pointed out in earlier posts.
Let her have time to GROW on her own. In the meantime, do some emotional reflection and growing of your own.
Who knows what the future holds, but when you don't give the solid base a chance to develop then you risk shaky, unhappy ground all your lives.
I really think about you and care about your situation. I do hope life presents more clear answers for you both and you both have the maturity to accept them as however they may be.
Pease for you FPOO
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caliber
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AGPb2rlUOSg
Matters of the heart need not be understood by others .......in the call of it's yearnings
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fresh prince of ohio
It's not getting better. The guilt, anxiety, insomnia, depression are choking the life right out of me and I don't know what to do. At the therapist now. Will bring up the subject of meds.
i can't take this loss.
