I have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days. In one way I feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me. Mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on Christmas day. In other ways I hate to feel that I am being rude to others. She may live only a week if that.
Over the past few days I have had to take a hard look at what I can and can not handle in my own home. 3 JW sisters came to visit mom yesterday. They asked if they could visit her. I did like that they asked permission instead of barging in and announcing they wanted to see her. Respect goes a long way with me. However I was worried about any guilt trips they would leave in their wake as they usually do. "Come on in, just park your religion at the door". They stopped in their tracks and so I explained that their visit was to be comforting, nothing about attending meetings "when" she gets well, or encouraging her to use the call-in phone meeting. They agreed and complied. She had a nice visit.
On the other hand are all of my cousins, neices and nephews who in the past, not only did they not show me any respect, they went out of their way to make sure I knew I wasn't welcomed. If they called to talk with mom and I answered the phone, they could not even give me a proper salutation. "Is Grandma there" is all I would hear. So friends I made the decision that if they cannot be respectful of me, why in the world would I invite them into my home? I would be insane to let those who I KNOW would treat me disrepectfully into my home at the time I am losing my mother. So I called the only two of my family who are also ex-JW, who I have developed a relationship with, who do understand and respect me. They are flying in tomarrow. I then got two angry calls from those described as above. They tried to argue that they have never been disrespectivfull, and I was being overly mean keeping them from seeing their dying grandma. They said more words to me yesterday than they have said in the past 28 years. Sad to say there was not an appology in any of those words. Oh and get this: One of them said I am making this a religious issue .
So my friends I need your support though these difficult days. And oh Aunt Connie? I would love to hear from you!