I admit I went to my pastor about premarital sex. He was all about restoration and forgiveness. I felt a lot better afterwards.
Hubby got a kind word from an elder, too. Keep in mind this was given after we were married. The elder told hubby "not to fornicate any more." I had a good giggle over that.
I would never counsel a couple to go to the elders about their sex life, either before or after marriage. Our Prime Minister was right, "The state [or church] has no business in the bedrooms of the nation."
Good advice for today, too.
What good can come from such a meeting? Might the couples be rushed to marriage, removed from priveleges, confess their intimacy to a panel of three men?