Wow. Amazing stuff. Welcome. I'm excited to hear an insider's perspective on the new 'Faith in Action' DVD series. I have yet to watch the whole thing myself, and I felt a little weird watching even the beginning of it. It doesn't even seem to make sense to do this when the Proclaimers book isn't even 20 years old yet. I assumed the Governing Body had little respect for the reading comprehension of the rank-and-file and decide to dumb it down to video format. (Maybe not entirely an incorrect assumption, as even my own family seemed to know nothing about 1925...which was in the Proclaimers book.)
Your use of the term 'church' didn't make me bat an eye. It's like Steve Hassan wrote in his book about these issues--he wrote that when he uses the word 'moon' he thinks of the Unification Church. It's logical to substitute words to escape the 'loaded language' of the religion. I often do the same thing myself--I prefer to use 'expelled' rather than 'disfellowshipped', for example, because the latter term brings back so much emotional trauma for me. And 'church' is merely the term other Bible translations use for what the NWT calls the 'congregation'. It's hardly a big deal. Besides, I know I got tired of trying to correct people and say, "It's called a Kingdom Hall," even when I was still in.
As for your sister, that's horrible. I know personally the pain of having to end a friendship with someone who wasn't a JW because of what my mom wanted. It tugs at my heart strings to hear it being done like that. It's outrageous. You can't make stuff like that up, believe me. It's too hurtful.
The feeling of being trapped, cut off from the outside world--something I can somewhat grasp these days myself. I wish I could offer suggestions on that, but I'm in no position to do so.
You seem to have an interesting perspective. Anything you want to share here will certainly be welcomed, as far as I'm concerned. You've given me no reason to distrust you, I'm not sure what other folks here are getting at. I wish you the best in sorting things out with your life and especially your family.