@james_woods,
Oh definatly not trying to advocate it. This is something very personal as a choice and should not be taken at the behest of someone else. I simply find the subject matter very interesting and was hoping for an honest an objective discussion about it. Most people are not, however, comfortable able discussing sex in general, let alone what they probably consider diviant in some way. I am also interested in exploring the bd/sm culture but not as a personal lifestlye choice per say.
If you will read carefully, I never say someone else should be doing this. Rather I just won't sit by idley if they make unsupported, critical statements that seem based on misconceptions and prejudice. I have had quite a few different discussions with others that boiled down to the assertion by them that swinging will wreck our marriage. Often due to some story they heard or someone they knew who experimented with it, then broke up with thier marriage partner. However when pressed for details, no one seems to know much about the couples actual relationship and cannot seem to establish a causual relationship with swinging and divorce, even in the small sample they had. In fact if looked at objectively most of the couples that got married as I grew up are divorced and still single or married for the nth time agian. None of whom were swingers. Should I conclude that not swinging leads to divorce?
So far, when looked at objectivley, swinging seems to have anywhere from a small positive effect to a large positive effect on marriage in general, not the other way around.
But like I said I was not trying to start a discussion on the merits of swinging as a lifestyle choice but rather simply gather information and share my experience. But I'm always up for a good debate. :)