I had a similar situation as CuriousButterfly. I wore my hair up at a circuit assembly.. I was 16 at the time, and a servant's wife (this was before the elder arrangement) read me the riot act...told me I looked worldly. I told my dad immediately... He was furious. He went to that sister ( I went with him, so I heard it all) and told her that she was not a "spiritual policewoman" and that if she had anything to say about the way I looked, she was to come to him. He then told her that he thought I looked beautiful. I could always count on my dad!