I was 15 and an fellow elder pulled me aside and privately told me my skirts were too short. Now mind you my father was an elder in the same congregation and had NO idea he counseled me. I was scared and never mentioned it to my parents. Years later I was laughing about it and my Dad hit the roof because this brother had me alone to counsel me when I was still a minor and with out my Dad's knowledge.
The funny thing is my parents were strict with our dress and if they even remotely thought our skirts/shorts were too short we had to change no questions asked. The not so funny thing is, I can see how elders (people in position) could take advantage of a minor. I was terrified of this elder that he had to "talk to me" so I never breathed a word to my parents. We were raised that the elders were right VERY scary situation when you are a child. We were brought up to respect the elders and mature christian in the congregation.
Also, I was counseled by a pioneer becasue they thought Def Leppard was too worldly along with U2, Duran Duran and Madonna. I was 16 and thought you nut job you looking for stuff to tell me? lol