Give me a reason not to have an affair/one night stand

by mtsgrad 125 Replies latest jw friends

  • mtsgrad
    mtsgrad

    I am extremely close to having an affair. Let me give you some details.

    Been married for 8 years
    Not had any relations for 7
    Faded 3 years ago.
    In middle of getting divorced

    Please give me a reason not to have an affair. I will give serious consideration to all posts.

    Thanks

    mtsgrad

  • funkyderek
    funkyderek

    It might make the divorce more expensive, and it might drag your new partner into the mess if your wife claims that your adultery was a factor in the marriage. You've waited this long, keep it in your pants for a few months longer!

    Of course, if your legal counsel says it's OK, go for it. You certainly have no reason to feel guilty about seeking affection elsewhere.

  • digderidoo
    digderidoo
    In middle of getting divorced

    If you're in the middle of getting divorced it wouldn't be an affair as i take it you've split? This is jw mindset, if you have split up with your wife, even thought you're still married it is not an affair.

    Just my thoughts

    Paul

  • Finally-Free
    Finally-Free

    For your own self respect, now and in the future.

    W

  • mtsgrad
    mtsgrad

    My wife is getting 50% of all my wealth anyhow. It is extremely unlikely I will get found out.
    Thanks for your input

    mtsgrad

  • Newborn
    Newborn

    Dear mtsgrad

    I've just gone through exactly the same thing this year. Had been married 12yrs. I followed my heart and had the affair. I was very much in love and couldn't stop it. Personally, I've never regretted it one sec. It was an amazing experience for me after being so miserable for many years. Of course, I'd never done it if I was still happy in marriage and under WTs strong influence but luckily I'm out now and free and happy!

    I say, go for it! Follow your feelings and what feels right for you.

    Good luck and let us know how things turn out for you.

    /Newborn

  • mtsgrad
    mtsgrad

    digderidoo

    Had not looked at it that way. Guess I was still enslaved by old WT thinking.
    Cheers

    Paul

  • mtsgrad
    mtsgrad

    Finally-Free

    After 7 yrs, self respect is not the main thing on my mind!
    Cheers

    mtsgrad

  • Finally-Free
    Finally-Free
    After 7 yrs, self respect is not the main thing on my mind!

    I hear you. After 11 years it wasn't on mine either.

    W

  • sacolton
    sacolton

    "In the middle of getting divorced" ...

    Sounds to me the marriage ended a long time ago.

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