Oompa in the AA meeting it just seemed to be about higher power drivel. However my first ex is in alcohol counselling and they do exactly that - they teach you how to drink in moderation. In the lockdown rehab he went to for 2 weeks it was total abstinence, but I think that was to break the habit as he had been drinking every day - pretty much since I left, so about 7 years I think. And then after that they stress how important it is to eat something - not only does this absorb alcohol but for some of us used to drinking a lot hunger becomes misinterpreted/translated as need for a drink and then you drink and drink and can't eat anything. he's now back in employment, still drinks and mostly in moderation - like two glasses of wine in the evening although I think he exceeds the limit at weekends still.
I think it has to be based on the individual. I know that I can drink in moderation. I've never been one to drink every day. I have to just do a quick check on my motivation when I want a drink. If its for the purposes of avoiding something or i can't relax without - then that's not a good reason. If however it's because a cold beer on a hot summer's eve with some friends and good conversation sounds like a pleasant past time, then that's a good reason and just remembering that I have my limits.
Limits vary too. One night you can drink a ton and not be pissed. Another night and the second glass starts to msake me feel like the world is tipping and those are the nights where I should not drink anymore.