by Awakened at Gilead 74 Replies latest members adult
I have faded only for my mother, when she is gone the rest I do not care what they say.
A&G there is always hope for your wife, just don't hit her over the head with info. My husband did that at first and I did not listen, I only pretended. It was when
he subtly said things sometimes I would say what? It got my curiosity up. We now both on the same page and are both together on our decision to leave.
Cheers
hope4others
Thanks, Hope4...
Actually I am learning to be somewhat less confrontational... Yesterday for the 1st time she allowed me to read a few phrases from Hassans book...
And she said she might be willing to meet a fader like OTWO....
This could be the start of some improvement...
Yesterday for the 1st time she allowed me to read a few phrases from Hassans book...And she said she might be willing to meet a fader like OTWO....
[email protected] think that is huge, at least it would be in my life. Learning the right balance for the right person takes effort and time.
A@G, based on what you've told me before, that sounds like significant improvements! Incremental, but noticable. Keep up the "good work!"
Dawg is very strongly anti JW but some people just have to be less direct in the way they oppose the JWs. Some ex JWs don't even care about harming the WTS.
The problem is that so many millions of JWs are afraid of a bunch of delusional dithering old men who can not even harm them if they all decide to rebel and put an end to this ridiculous travesty.
Firstly I am not mentally ready for the challenge. I need to get my own head straight before I mess with anyone elses. Secondly, I believe nine times out of ten the tread softly approach is more effective. I love my family and want the best shot at helping them out too.
Dawg and others have an "in your face approach", others are more tactful. Some feel they have nothing to lose (particularly if they have no children "in"), others would be devasted if their family (particularly children) cut them off.
The appoach each one takes and the steps they take to leave the WT and deal with the aftermath, are very personal.
There is no right or wrong way to leave the WT. However, I feel it is wrong to put others down for the way they choose to handle things.
changeling :)
I totally respect Dawg. Good man.
Although I'm still in "fading" mode - this is purely in the hopes of buying some time to help family and a few friends. There is definitly an end to this game on the horizon. I think it's important to have this. For me - it's one year. Once this threshold is crossed, then all bets are off.
Some people need to feel that they have done the right thing, and come clean, and said everything, and covered all the bases. Some people don't need that feeling at all. I personally advocate finding the balance that works for you.
I have to agree that part of the brain washing is the feeling that you are still doing something wrong .Being away for gosh probable15 years I at times find myself saying oh should I say that or what if I am wrong. You are made to feel like any thing outside is wrong and even though you are gone from the organization that feeling is something you struggle with for a very long time and something not easy to get over. All of us were looking for something and to be let down causes doubt in ourselves. So speaking out for some will and can be very hard not because they don't know what jws are but because of the damage done to there self confidence. Only speaking from a personal experience. Nice to see everyone again.
