You are obviously going to stick with this guy. You obviously think he has good intentions
and is not using WT-standards in his life, and you are sure he won't use WT-standards to
raise any children you might have.
You have tried to convince us of all this. That is why I have quoted your initial post.
We have to assume the guy wants to be a JW and still believes the JW's are "the truth."
That's what you started out telling us.
I know that he always wanted me to convert and tried to get me to and he always will, but when we discuss religion (which is often) I am never swayed and he has gotten used to it. And as he explained it; life would be much easier for us if we were both JW and obviously he would want me to be one b/c of his beleif about paradise earth. But thats not a big deal b/c he loves me regardless of my beleifs and we're very feisty so we actually have a pretty good time debating our differences.
So my concerns are; his religousness has made him incredibly small minded in certain ways and I am concerned about how that will affect our ability to raise kids. I am totally fine with them being raised as witnesses because he is an incredible person with strong values from his faith and I am not religous so I know that it is more important to him than me.
Problem being: how do I get him to understand that Im not that kind of woman and dont want to be? I want to get him to realize that we need to be able to work together as equals and he needs to back down on that one? He understands my side but says "thats what the bible says so..." so my question is how do i get him to get over that and compermise?
As we addressed these concerns, you seemed to be able to dismiss our responses. You did it
nicely and were grateful for our thoughts, but you were bound and determined to make it work.
Fine. That's the kind of love that is enduring- the kind you fight for.
Still, many of our concerns will become reality. He may get back to being a strong Witness and
dismiss his "worldly" playmate. He may say that you need to become a JW in order to continue
the relationship. He may not. We addressed those, you are forewarned.
The issues with the kids are very serious. As long as he remains a JW, we highly advise you not
to have kids, and certainly not to let him raise them as JW's since you "know that it is more
important to him..."
Since you will insist that it will all work out fine because he is not like them, why does he still want
to be one of them? He disagrees with their policy on premarital sex, association with outsiders, way
of raising children, etc. He is trying to be a normal human being despite their influence on his life.
He may one day come out of the religion, but what is holding him back?