I was a JW but left about 8 years ago, my Husband wanted to go back so we have tried, I did not do so good. Being gone so long just helped me realize this is totally false, I look at the JWs as lambs being lead to their deaths.
Fast forward to now, we are both in our 40s and I have had medical side effects from using birth control and other meds as birth control. My body can not take anymore, I have suffered breast cyst and uterus cyst, so I asked my Husband who has an issue with using condoms because he does not reach a climax, and has to masturbate, to use something that would offer us a permanent result such as him getting a vasectomy.
His reaction is like why I feel even more strongly that JWs are wrong. He believes even though many Brother's in Bethel do it and many continue to do it. The Elders told him it is a personal choice and he needs to make it. He believes it will make him Gay, because he would be changing a body part. He told me after we have been living with out sex for some 3 years now that he will never do anything to change what God Jehovah gave him to be with me but I could do what ever I wanted to my body for him.
I just wanted safe sex, I wanted to be with a person that I am not planning on cheating on, I am not going to run out and find someone else so why must we have to use birth control. I just wanted some good sex is that so wrong?
I am so sick of him and his lies to the point that I have left him several times, but we agreed to work it out for the sake of our children. I moved back into our bed room and he took it as the green light, so we did it we had sex and I was the one who was ass out because he agreed if I become pregnant that I could get rid of it, until the test came back positive.
Needless to say I felt like he was trapping me yet again, claiming he made a mistake. I have since realized it is over and I am making my plans to leave and just live in different States. I know my Husband has menially issues, but I am just getting tired of having to live with a man sleep with a man that I can not touch. I want to know what other men think about this issue?
Why would a God want a many to masturbate himself rather then be with the Wife he claims to love. Why would any person believe in such sickness?