My Andy was in a bad car accident~

by FlyingHighNow 471 Replies latest members private

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    Es, I am devastated. All I can think of is how confusing this must be to him. And I am hoping we can see him. I want to hold my little bubbie and let him know this isn't his fault and that we love him and want him with us very badly. I know people hate to hear it, but it's very painful. And we do appreciate the love and concern you are all showing. That at least lets us know we are valuable to others.

    Please everyone pray that I can have good night's sleep and morning free from painful anxiety. Andy and Julian seem to be able to handle this better than me.

  • Es
    Es

    I bet your devasted it would be horrible and very disruptive to not only you but your grandson.

    You are valuable hun, pls know you are in my thoughts daily.

    Hoping you have a restful sleep

    much love

    es

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    I picked up the original version of HairSpray from the library yesterday. Julian camped out in the living room with me and we watched it together. We laughed and it helped us both. We also put in the movie Benny and Joon and I fell asleep during it.

    I decided to sleep in and not go to church today. I couldn't bear telling anyone why Mickey wasn't with us. Andy hasn't even told his mother yet. On FOX at 10 AM, they play a Catholic Mass. It's similar enough to the Episcopal service to be comforting. I drifted in and out during it. I think I feel a cry coming on. Crying always helps release some of the pain.

    Thank all of you for your encouragment and help. You are helping to make a most unbearable situation more tolerable. Please keep up the prayers. We are going to the need them as the reality of this settles in. And the positive thoughts and vibes from others, please send them as you think of us. When you experience this kind of heartbreak, only superhuman help will get you through.

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    Last year, when Mickey was hurt, I bought Chicken Soup for Uplifting the Soul. In it there is a chapter for children. I found this prayer and I sat and typed it one day for a thread here on JWD. Please read it, but warning, have a kleenex. Children are so precious, those who are lucky enough to have good and normal lives and those whose lives are hell and those who fall at some point in between.

    A Prayer for Children

    by

    Ina J. Hughs

    We pray for children

    Who give us sticky kisses,

    Who hop on rocks and chase butterflies,

    Who stomp in puddles and ruin their math workbooks,

    Who can never find their shoes.

    And we pray for those

    Who stare at photographers from behind barbed wire,

    Who've never squeaked across the floor in new sneakers,

    Who've never "counted potatoes,"

    Who are born in places we wouldn't be caught dead,

    Who never go to the circus,

    Who live in an X-rated world.

    We pray for children

    Who bring us fistfuls of dandelions and sing off key

    Who have goldfish funerals, build card table forts

    Who slurp their cereal on purpose

    Who put gum in their hair, put sugar in their milk

    Who spit toothepaste all over the sink

    Who hug us for no reason, who bless us each night.

    And we pray for those

    Who never get dessert,

    Who watch their parents watch them die,

    Who have no safe blanket to drag behind,

    Who can't find any bread to steal,

    Who don't have any rooms to clean up,

    Whose pictures aren't on anybody's dresser,

    Whose monsters are real.

    We pray for those

    Who spend all their allowance before Tuesday,

    Who throw tantrums in the grocery store

    And pick at their food,

    Who like ghost stories,

    Who shove dirty clothes under the bed

    And never rinse out the tub,

    Who get quarters from the tooth fairy,

    Who don't like to be kissed in front of the carpool,

    Who squirm in church and scream on the phone,

    Whose tears we sometimes laugh at

    And whose smiles can make us cry.

    And we pray for those

    Whose nightmares come in the daytime,

    Who will eat anything,

    Who have never seen a dentist,

    Who aren't spoiled by anybody,

    Who go to bed hungry and cry themselves to sleep,

    Who live and move, but have no being.

    We pray for children

    Who want to be carried,

    And for those who must.

    For those we never give up on,

    And for those who don't have a chance.

    For those we smother,

    And for those who will grab the hand of anybody kind

    enough to offer.

  • Good Girl or Bad Girl?
    Good Girl or Bad Girl?

    FHN, you are in my thoughts today! I really hope for some compassion and justice in your case! What can we do!? I am sending you an email as well, so please check that.

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    I got your e-mail. I sent a short reply.

    Julian and I went to see Nancy Drew. He broke down and cried in the car on the way there. He has been holding it all back. The movie was rated G and very nicely done. Now maybe he'll want to check out some of those books as well as The Hardy Boys books from the library. We use the library a lot. It's the best entertainment for nothing or cheap CDs and movies.

  • Mary
    Mary
    Thursday night Megan came and took Mickey and they are evaluating the situation until his out of state caseworker gets here. The 23rd. We had no warning. No chance to prepare him or do a proper good bye. The only saving grace was that he thought it was an adventure. He is still in Michigan. We only hope they will either return him or allow us to see him and maybe celebrate his birthday with him.

    Just a minute....I'm totally confused here. Why is Mickey not allowed to stay with you and Andy? And are you telling me that Michigan doesn't classify your grandchildren as being your immediate family?! Jesus H. Christ.

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    Mary, Mickey is my grandson through my daughter, but he was forced into the foster care system out east because his father brutally abused him. I had to become a foster parent to get physical custody of him. He is in the system and the system sucks because they demand everyone be of optimum health and all kinds of nit picky protocol, even of a grandmother. That protocol does protect some kids, but in this case, it's overkill. It's just a bunch of horrid crap. If I told you how they came and got Mickey, you'd really be angry. It hurts. It's just a nightmare. I will be calling his out east caseworker tomorrow. I don't know how much good it will do. Please, I hope everyone will pray for me that it will go well. I am on leave and I have not left these children alone with with even a babysitter since my leave.

  • Mary
    Mary

    That is just plain sickening......I know you've got a lot on your plate but is there any way you can either adopt the kids or at least be their legal guardian?

  • delilah
    delilah

    OMG, FHN....this is just horrific...those poor grandchildren of yours. My heart goes out to them and to you...you are hurting as much as they are, if not more....please know that I'm thinking of all of you, and Andy....I sure hope this gets sorted out before too long. Hang in there hon.

    Dee...........xxxx

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