I'm an eyes person all the way as well. I've dated a few guys who were in perfect shape but it didn't last long because they spent too much time on how they looked and it seemed to be all they cared about. I'd much prefer a man with a well developed brain over a great body any day.
Question for the Ladies?
The way he smells is what does it for me. If you want the abs-go for it. I doubt they will turn her off unless you go and get scary about it-like those guys on some of the muscle mags. If you have that much discipline, then you are kind of scary! If you get in good overall shape, and FEEL good, and act on it, that is sexy enough for about any woman I know (incl. me!!) My husband has some excellent thighs. I actually just noticed tonite (15 years!) because his butt is so cute, I guess I didn't need to look any further.