Crumpet, without trying to be to big headed I will try and tell you your question on your post. Of course as Sir Robert Burns put it
"oh the gift we could have, if we could see ourselves as others see us"
But I will try to be honest without being arrogant but honest also.
First I don't look anything like my sign on would suggest, I am 190 lbs at 5'9" with 9% body fat, 17 1/2 inch arms, big shoulders, a 44 inch chest and a 32 inch waist and yes I have a six pack, I exercise 6 days a week for the most part but on to the other parts.
I wash the dishes every night, clean all the time as I hate clutter and a dirty home, I do laundry most of the time, I do cuddle my wife as she is not a cuddler, she is always satisfied first in the bedroom department as Juni posted, she has over 72K worth the jewerly on just 6 rings that I picked out and bought as I am jewerly nut, all the stones are GIA cert and quality stones from all over the world. I do give my wife a foot massage about 5 days a week, I tell her several times daily that I love her and show it to her as well as words are cheap. I find her very sexy and attractive and does not look anything like a grandma, I don't believe on lying to someone or for someone. I joke a lot with her and use to work construction so you have to have a quick tongue and be sharp on your feet, I try to be positive most of the time, cleanliness is not even even an issue. I love to give and help others, especially those less fortunate. I love to talk and be communitive as my many posts show.
However, I need to work on many other things as it is not hard slip into bad patterns or habits. Pleasee dont take this as bragging but you asked.