Noticing boobs is not objectification, Abandoned. Nobody here has said so. If you are insulted, then you clearly don't understand what I said. Why are you so defensive, anyway?
WOW! I'm glad you know so much about me. Yep, I'm way defensive. Is everyone who tries to clarify their position with you considerd defensive? Or just me? It would seem that either applies to both of us or neither of us. Your choice....
I'm sure not every person who patronizes Hooters is guilty of objectification of women. It's the company that objectifies them and some of the patrons. The thing is, some men and some women don't understand what objectification of another person means. They wouldn't have a clue if they were guilty of it. Wander is telling us he realized he was guilty of it. I am certain we are all guilty of it at times. Where the scales fall off his eyes is in his realization of his own distorted view of women and correcting it. I hope all people can have a similar eye opener when it comes to other people.
I think objectification is a pretty simple term to define: considering someone as just an object rather than a complete person. Liking a woman's body doesn't turn a woman into an object. It's one aspect of the woman that is liked, not the only one.
I suppose you could ask yourself: when you see women, do you see people or do you see walking talking love dolls? Do you run to open the door for an older, plumper, less attractive woman the way you do a younger, prettier one? Is your concern for the less attractive as great as it for the very attractive? When we women see men, do we see people? Or do we see handsome or not so handsome bank accounts? Do we look at their cars and decide whether or not they are losers?
Walking, talking love dolls? To quote someone I think you know, "those are your words, not mine." But how do you know whether I open doors for women or not? I do what I do and I don't need to blow a trumpet before myself nor feel ashamed. You seem to be worried that I may only be looking after the pretty women. That's nice of you to be so concerned, but it seems like you may doing a bit of that objectifying in reverse. Do the "less attractive" women deserve the door first or the "attractive" ones? How about it doesn't matter?