Most here will know of the serious illness I've been fighting for the past two years. Well, this morning I decided to go for a stroll to try and help build up my fitness. At the bottom of my street lives an elder from my old congregation and I have to pass his house. As it happens he was out in his garden and when he saw me passing he asked how I was doing. I replied: "What's it got to do with you!" This really flummoxed him and I just went on my way. Actually, it was as if the words left my mouth before I could stop them!!
As I turned the corner I thought I should have handled it better. Perhaps I would have been better saying nothing. However, what must be realised here is that during the past two years, when my illness had me in its deathly grip, he didn't call round once to ask how I was. Also, when my daughter, Stephanie, returned home she confided that she had attempted suicide. The elder in question KNEW but didn't inform Claire and I that Stephanie was in hospital. OK, Stephanie probably said she didn't want us to know (she had left home because we exited the organisation) but we are her parents and the elder should have informed us.
Also, the same elder is the one who proudly got up on the platform and gave a marking talk referring to Claire and I but without naming us. I was informed by someone who was there that it was obvious the marking was for us. After his talk the shunning started!
Everyone who really knows me will tell you that I hate upsetting anyone. I even started to feel guilty at sounding off at the elder in the way that I did. I wasn't even going to post this but then, on reflection, I felt it might help others who are still somewhat afraid of the elders. You see, most elders are just big headed jerks who love to hold on to their position in order to laud it over others. This elder strikes me as being such.
I have to say I do feel good in that he will have realised, once again, that he has no power over me or my family. As I said, I don't like upsetting anyone - but elders deserve disrespect because of what they do and what they represent.