My response having served on many JC is - be honest & open. The elders aim is to "gain you" as a brother - not vindictively disfellowship you. DF is absolutely a final option. Tell the facts & how you feel. Pray to Jehovah. The passage of time isn't necessarily a factor - it is a positive matter that you want to get the matter sorted out.
Bullshyt, had three elders over one nite, they came with malice in their heart and their minds made up before I could even present my side.
they wouldn't answer my questions,( and to this day a year later I still haven't recieved an answer concerning the U.N situation) or look up scriptures with me so I could show my points.
No, they came with their minds made up before even talking to me.
Oh my crime... I was studing the other books mentioned/quoted in the bible, I was told, the FDS will give me all I need to Know at the right time, don't get ahead of the org. Hey it's not my fault their slow.
Jesus said... you will know my disciple, by the love they show to one another. Where's the love?