There is no one that comes between you and the one that died for your sins. No one else can know your heart, or judge your repentance, except for God. That is a very personal thing. No institution, body of elders, or single person, can judge your repentance, or require you to attend a meeting of men, themselves sinners, to judge your repentance, your value to God, or whether you will live on in the new world order. For, the time you are being shunned by these equally value-less men in the eyes of God, you are not part of the body of Christ, and you are already dead and therefore not worth anything in God's eyes. Armagheddon could come at this time and you could be permanently dead, in their version of reality, because they *say so*.
Who are you, a mere human, or any *other* mere human, to stand in the place of GOD to judge your worthiness for existence on this Earth? I think they, and you, are presuming alot. Who died and made THEM God? Nobody. But *somebody* died, and it was Jesus, and he made it so you can be ASSURED of living on in whatever life he will make for you, if you accept him as your Christ.
JW's are so presumptuous as to configure their little human lives, not so much more than ants ona pile of dirt, and presume to act in the place of the Almighty: directing everyone's lives, making them feel guilty for not putting in enough time, not doing enough in the congregation, and forming these little tiny ant-like conferences to decide whether to put the worker ant out and make him feel like crap, when the BIG GUY says that we are all saved by Grace, and that our repentance is through prayer and with HIM.
If you'd like to stay in the "Christian" congregation, well then, that's totally up to you. I would advise that you take responsibility for your actions, but I'd also think you'd like to act in the name of honor and not reveal details, which is undignified, disrespectful and downright invasive to your accompaniment. Say you will accept punishment for YOUR actions, but you are not ratting out the lady, who is responsible for her OWN part in the sins.
I know it does't work like that, but please be an honorable man and just take responsibility for your own part, and not rat out other people. There's nothing worse than a tattle tale.