Nobody has the right to do this to you. Nobody has the right to make you feel this way because all you have done is engage in perfectly NORMAL human behaviour! SEX is not dirty, or something to be ashamed of! It is what makes us human beings. You need to understand your feelings of guilt are reactions to the MIND CONTROL that this cult is having over you. If you feel bad about how the other person is feeling about this, talk to them about it, how is this any business of these elders? What happened was between 2 adults, and it is between you and them, not these pompous ass self-righteous elders (most of whom have no education, no training, no qualifications and no empathy).
"Elders" are self-appointed "judges" who have NO RIGHT to ask you any of these questions. Go back to the main page and do some honest, in depth research into the truth about this corporation masquerading as a "religion" and get yourself out of it.
And brother billy-boy: take your self-righteous, arrogant, brainwashed ass back to your king-dumb hall and stop participating in apostate discussion boards......you know the thought police in your congregation can track your IP address?