I know the frustration you are expressing, defd. I have come to acknowledge that the people at the meetings are not so Godly. They go through the motions of Godliness. Or rather, they go through the motions of what the Governing Body tells them is Godly.
You don't hear foul language at the meetings, but that isn't because they don't use foul language. It's because they don't use foul language around other JWs.
Everyone is smiling, but it isn't because they are happy. It is because they believe JWs are "the happiest people on earth" and they are trying to prove it.
Everyone seems considerate of everyone else, but that isn't because they are considerate. It's because they believe they are supposed to be.
Once I figured out what is really going on it turned my stomach to sit amongst them. Hebrews 10:24, 25 is out of context and is not said to be "encouragement." JWs take it as a command from God. Taken in context by their own explanations of the Bible it only applies to the anointed.
Hebrews 10:19-25 19 Therefore, brothers, since we have boldness for the way of entry into the holy place by the blood of Jesus, 20 which he inaugurated for us as a new and living way through the curtain, that is, his flesh, 21 and since we have a great priest over the house of God, 22 let us approach with true hearts in the full assurance of faith, having had our hearts sprinkled from a wicked conscience and our bodies bathed with clean water. 23 Let us hold fast the public declaration of our hope without wavering, for he is faithful that promised. 24 And let us consider one another to incite to love and fine works, 25 not forsaking the gathering of ourselves together, as some have the custom, but encouraging one another, and all the more so as YOU behold the day drawing near.
Only the anointed are included in the context.
AuldSoul