I was living an empty life. Work made me feel a sense of accomplishment but the Boss was difficult to say the least. I went to night shift to get away from her. Work inproved but working nightsift was extreamly hard to deal with.
Ahab asked if a few of us wanted to take a bike ride on his day off. I thought well, I've never done anything social with non JW's and it might be good for me. When I get home and tell LM he will flip out and I'll never do it again. So it ended up just being Ahab and me, the others bailed out. I thought OK this is interesting but just went with the flow. It was a real nice day and no presure, just small talk and a good workout. I thought for sure LM would flip out and even warned Ahab that I'll never be able to see him out of work again. He thought that was a bit extream but understood.
So I told the LM about my day and shock of all shocks all he said was "so my wife is hanging with the big wiggs" he almost seemed proud of it. Those are word he ends up regreting.
For the next few months every few days I starting running with Ahab and LM didn't seem to even care. Ahab's wife didn't like it and put an end to it.
My view of a lot of JW marriages:
As a JW after you say I Do that is it! There is no way out! I believe LM just took me for granted because he felt I had no choice but to stay with him. He would even say he "owned" me. As if I was just a purchase. I do now see he was obusively controlling but I also feel JW's encourage it. They never want an option to be known. Keep the rose colored glasses on. As a sister especially you are nothing when not attached to you Husband.
He stated later that he felt he would take care of his parents because he didn't know how much longer they would live. When they were gone I would still be there waiting for him. His Dad lived five years after the first episode and his Mom I believe is still alive.