Posts by talesin

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I teachers sex abuse in I school costs 139 million settlement. LA Times

by prologos in

the high cost of institutional negligence in protecting children: 139 000 000.- for one offender.. google la times miramonte school --.. .

talesin

Hers's a link to the story .... assuming you are on a tablet or some device that makes it difficult to embed. :))

http://www.latimes.com/local/education/la-me-1122-miramonte-settlement-20141122-story.html#page=1

haha, I hope this works ... xx

t

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I Dedicate this Post In Support Of Candace Conti in her effort to gain Justice For All Sexually Abused Children by the WTB&TS

by smiddy in

correct me if i am wrong , wasnt this first brought before the courts on the 20/09/2012 ?

if not earlier ?.

candace conti has held out from taking a settlement from the wtb&ts which would require a gag order .

I made a good 'witness' today to a couple of sisters TM who had a stand at the bus terminal. They asked me if I had internet at home, and suggested I look up the JWS online. Well, that is when Candace Conti became the topic of discussion!

It was my turn to express happiness that they were also online, and I directed them to look up C-a-n-d-a-c-e C-o-n-t-i. Yes, I spelled it out for them! When the younger (obviously born-in) one knowingly and sadly shook her head, and the older said "oh yes, there are a lot of lies out there, and our elders ALWAYS report child abuse. That's just not true.". I then explained that I was a 4th generation JW and one of my own friends was molested by an elder's son, yadda yadda.

Anyhow, thank you Candace Conti! You have given all of us, a concrete case, a reference point (for lack of a better term to describe the tremendous sacrifice you have made) to 'hand over' to any JW who is online. That is a major thing, and you are helping so many people. I thank you personally, as an adult survivor myself, and send you much love and healing energy.

sparrowdown - the Power of One - I had not thought of that expression in a long time, and many thanks for the reminder. That will help me in my personal struggles at the moment.

tal

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Feeling sad over a wasted life in watchtower

by wannaexit in

jw
friends

it's been 12 years since i first read ray franz's books and the scales came off my eyes.

by that time i was in my forties.. since 2002 i went back to school and have worked with 3 very professional organizations.

but my biological clock is ticking away and while my peers are looking forward to retirement, i am only beginning.

talesin

Some losses are greater than others. The loss of our childhood and early youth is huge. Hey, bitterness is merely repressed sadness and hurt. It's nothing to feel ashamed of - rather, recognize it has good cause, and then you can deal with it. It takes time and work.

Let those feelings out, in whatever way works for you (healthy ways). You might want to smash something, well okay, take a hammer to that old VCR that is sitting in the garage and doesn't work. You may have pent-up rage (I did). Maybe you like to pump iron, that is a natural high. Crying is a physical release of emotion - it's a good thing. Cry in the shower - it's private and feels womblike. Writing about how you feel is dealt with in a special way by our brains, and can be therapeutic, too.

:)

Mostly, know that your feelings are real, own them and know it's okay.

xo

tal

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Feeling sad over a wasted life in watchtower

by wannaexit in

jw
friends

it's been 12 years since i first read ray franz's books and the scales came off my eyes.

by that time i was in my forties.. since 2002 i went back to school and have worked with 3 very professional organizations.

but my biological clock is ticking away and while my peers are looking forward to retirement, i am only beginning.

talesin

Some days / times are more difficult than others. Sorry you are having a sad.

I try to think of de-ah Miss Scah-lett, when she said "After all, tomorrow is another day!"

It's okay to feel how you are feeling; grieving is a process.

xx

tal

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Posting Pictures

by Jeannette in

i'm behind the times, i know, but i'll obey all help.

thanks..

talesin

cantleave

*or anyone

Just to clarify, if I post a picture using my facebook url, is that traceable to my facebook account? Or the account's e-mail?

I use Photobucket myself, but f/b would be much easier, and I ask for others' benefit, too. Lots of folks like myself, who can use a bit of help.

It took me a while to figure out Photobucket, as it was uncommon ground and illness/pain makes me stupid sometimes. ;) It's been quite humbling.

Also, they made it easier. Photobucket is easy to use, if anyone is wondering. It's me, not them... :P

Thanks.

tal

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Bill Cosby - too much smoke for no fire?

by Simon in

it seems like the list of people who are accusing him of rape and sexual assault is growing every day.

i'm skeptical of single accusations but the number of people and the similar stories seem overwhelming now.. it's not a conviction but to the court of public opinion ... guilty?.

.

talesin

Oh, I feel queasy after reading that. 1976, Las Vegas, yeah, that was a common occurence. We may have only heard of 'roofies' or GBH in the past 20 years or so, but this has been around forever. Her statement is plausible, that's for sure. She is a brave soul.

Thanks, Dagney, for sharing the article.

tal

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Why are people so dramatic

by rebel8 in

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friends

i want to retire.

i'm quite a ways off from the age to collect social security and all.

i don't hate working--i actually like it.

talesin

Oh, and yes, I think you are correct. Many people seem to have no inner life. There are probably multiple causes, like stress, technological demands on 'alone' time, and lack of interpersonal contact, to name a few. Dramatic people remind me of the drowning man, flailing around; a cry for help. But I'm not the doctor. ;)

t

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Why are people so dramatic

by rebel8 in

jw
friends

i want to retire.

i'm quite a ways off from the age to collect social security and all.

i don't hate working--i actually like it.

talesin

Ugh. I hear you! The Feds offered me a job twice, and the provincial GEU (Government Employees Union) as well, and I turned them down. It's been called a poor choice, but honestly, I have no regrets.

In my assignments as a long-term temp at the time, I got to see the ugly, and wanted no part of it. All that drama is boring, exhausting and a waste of time. Most of my career was spent working for private consulting firms, where the environment had to be that of a a team. Everyone from the receptionist to the president, was considered essential. Those days are gone.

Wishing you more peace at work.

xx

tal

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Lightbulbs

by PhilJonesIII in

im sure someone must have posted this before but here goes.. q: how many jws does it take to change a lightbulb?.

a : jws are not allowed to change lightbulbs.

anyone attempting to introduce new light gets disfellowshipped.. .

talesin

A: Two. He needs two witnesses to prove he changed the lightbulb, himself and one other person who actually witnessed the changing of said lightbulb.

t

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Bill Cosby - too much smoke for no fire?

by Simon in

it seems like the list of people who are accusing him of rape and sexual assault is growing every day.

i'm skeptical of single accusations but the number of people and the similar stories seem overwhelming now.. it's not a conviction but to the court of public opinion ... guilty?.

.

talesin

That's interesting, ShirleyW. Janice Dickerson has no filter, so, hmmm........... she could very well be telling the truth, or at the very least 'her' truth.

Simon, I had not heard of these rumours. *sigh* Nope, don't miss TV at all.

xx

tal

EDIT: Sorry, not rumours, but 'allegations'.

*sometimes I forget how legalistic JWN has become* klass