Posts by wallievase

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Goodbye and thank you.

by wallievase in

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it's come time for me to leave.

i honestly feel at this point continuing to visit this site and others like it is starting to hinder me from moving on by keeping all the feelings of pain, resentment, regret, etc fresh.. i haven't posted a lot since i have been on here but to those of you that replied when i did, i appreciate it very much.

you helped me through a very rough time that is affecting me to this day.

wallievase

It's come time for me to leave. I honestly feel at this point continuing to visit this site and others like it is starting to hinder me from moving on by keeping all the feelings of pain, resentment, regret, etc fresh.

I haven't posted a lot since I have been on here but to those of you that replied when I did, I appreciate it very much. You helped me through a very rough time that is affecting me to this day. Sites like this and jwfacts.org have helped me tremendously in my search for real truth and love.

My wife and I are getting a divorce over this, multi parents aren't talking to me, but I'm moving on with my life to bigger and better things. My relationship with God will continue and my other ones will heal or be replaced.

I just can't be the ex boyfriend that drives past his old girlfriends house and wonders what she is doing or who she is with. I no longer care what new things the watchtower society comes up with because it has become clear that they will not change. And since that is clear I'm done with everything that brings them to mind.

Again I thank you and I wish everyone the best.

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Advice Needed...Again

by wallievase in

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current update- the wife and i are separated.

i dont go to the meetings or in service but im not df, or da.

she is not budging.. problem- my wife has made it clear that she doesnt want me back unless i do all the witness stuff, i have even offered to attend meetings but not participate in commenting or go in service and this is not good enough.

wallievase

Current Update- The wife and i are separated. I dont go to the meetings or in service but im not df, or da. She is not budging.

Problem- my wife has made it clear that she doesnt want me back unless i do all the witness stuff, i have even offered to attend meetings but not participate in commenting or go in service and this is not good enough. She wants a person that is all in, or not at all.

The main issue is this-

if i cheat, which i am not a cheater, i get disfellowshipped and lose what little contact i still have with my immediate family.

if i divorce so that i dont cheat, and i get remarried- i still get disfellowshipped and again, i still lose my family.

She wont give me what i want, being a wife and being together again, and i am screwed no matter what i do unless i just wanna be alone forever.

Ideas?

37

FuGK This Religion- Stop Ruining My Life!!!

by wallievase in

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i am sorry for the title but today just took the cake.

after not going to the meetings since august and trying to sort through this with my family, my wife today told me she wants to separate because of our differences over being a witness or not.. this is ridiculous.

so i said- how can you separate from me when the religion you whole heartedly believe says you can only separate for 3 reasons- abuse, willful non-support, or stopping her from her meeting attendance, etc.

wallievase

Just kidding- It was perfect but we didnt have any big blow ups.

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FuGK This Religion- Stop Ruining My Life!!!

by wallievase in

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friends

i am sorry for the title but today just took the cake.

after not going to the meetings since august and trying to sort through this with my family, my wife today told me she wants to separate because of our differences over being a witness or not.. this is ridiculous.

so i said- how can you separate from me when the religion you whole heartedly believe says you can only separate for 3 reasons- abuse, willful non-support, or stopping her from her meeting attendance, etc.

wallievase

Cofty- We have been married a little under 10 years, no kids, and havent tried counseling yet.

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FuGK This Religion- Stop Ruining My Life!!!

by wallievase in

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friends

i am sorry for the title but today just took the cake.

after not going to the meetings since august and trying to sort through this with my family, my wife today told me she wants to separate because of our differences over being a witness or not.. this is ridiculous.

so i said- how can you separate from me when the religion you whole heartedly believe says you can only separate for 3 reasons- abuse, willful non-support, or stopping her from her meeting attendance, etc.

wallievase

Thank you all for your support. I will try to keep you up to date.

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FuGK This Religion- Stop Ruining My Life!!!

by wallievase in

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friends

i am sorry for the title but today just took the cake.

after not going to the meetings since august and trying to sort through this with my family, my wife today told me she wants to separate because of our differences over being a witness or not.. this is ridiculous.

so i said- how can you separate from me when the religion you whole heartedly believe says you can only separate for 3 reasons- abuse, willful non-support, or stopping her from her meeting attendance, etc.

wallievase

I am sorry for the title but today just took the cake. After not going to the meetings since August and trying to sort through this with my family, my wife today told me she wants to separate because of our differences over being a witness or not.

This is ridiculous. So i said- how can you separate from me when the religion you whole heartedly believe says you can only separate for 3 reasons- abuse, willful non-support, or stopping her from her meeting attendance, etc. I clearly have not done any of those. She didnt have an answer.

I am just done with this crap and i am losing everyone around me. Somebody out there pray for me.

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Why are you treated as mentally ill if you try to leave?

by wallievase in

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i would just like to know why people are always treated like you have to be depressed or have some type of serious mental issue if you try to leave?

you cant just leave because its not for you?.

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wallievase

I would just like to know why people are always treated like you have to be depressed or have some type of serious mental issue if you try to leave? You cant just leave because its not for you?

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The Givers

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i saw the film the giver tonight.

all i could think about through the whole movie was the organization.

any thoughts?.

wallievase

I saw the film The Giver tonight. All I could think about through the whole movie was the organization. Any thoughts?

13

3rd Update on Fading

by wallievase in

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ok well i have updated you about the dilemma about my wife and family and more recently about the elders trying to schedule a shepherding call.. on our way back from th international convention she basically told me if i were to leave that we should go our seperate ways.. so i took a few days and thought about it.

it seems she was more mad about my waffling back and forth and going to the hall sometimes and just not making up my mind.. today i gave her a proposal- i will stop going all together unless it it an assembly or convention or memorial for her.. we will not discuss religious topics, as this is where most of our arguments have been centered around, at all.. we will support all of each others endeavors besides religious intrests.

i will talk to my family and let them know my intentions without getting into an details next month because my mother keeps calling me about it.

wallievase

Ok well i have updated you about the dilemma about my wife and family and more recently about the elders trying to schedule a shepherding call.

On our way back from th International Convention she basically told me if i were to leave that we should go our seperate ways.

So i took a few days and thought about it. It seems she was more mad about my waffling back and forth and going to the hall sometimes and just not making up my mind.

Today i gave her a proposal- I will stop going all together unless it it an assembly or convention or memorial for her.

We will not discuss religious topics, as this is where most of our arguments have been centered around, at all.

We will support all of each others endeavors besides religious intrests

I will talk to my family and let them know my intentions without getting into an details next month because my mother keeps calling me about it

We give it 1 year, if its as bad as she thinks, both of us are unhappy, alsways arguing, etc- i told her we can part ways.

Surprisingly she accepted this offer, so i will see how it goes

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Update on Fading Question

by wallievase in

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the other day i posted my delimma about dealing with family and leaving.. update: my wife came home from the hall sunday (i have now missed about 3 weeks in a row) and the elders now want to schedule a sheperding call.. should i just blow them off, or when they come over (because im sure my wife will have them over even if i decline) just tell them i cant do it right now?.

b.

wallievase

The other day i posted my delimma about dealing with family and leaving.

Update: My wife came home from the hall sunday (I have now missed about 3 weeks in a row) and the elders now want to schedule a sheperding call.

Should i just blow them off, or when they come over (because im sure my wife will have them over even if i decline) just tell them i cant do it right now?

B