They are baptized in the Kool Aid. What do you think your sister will do once they pull her in the back room and "suggest" that she no longer associate with you?
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Been gone a while, but feel the need for support again
by megsmomma inmy jw daughter is getting close to being 18, and she was baptized at the ripe old age of 11.... so i feel like the shunning is coming.
my sister is also on the verge of getting baptized, even though i have been able to show her many things about the watchtower proving it is full of lies, she is still falling for it.
she spoke to an elder about the shunning policy, saying she wouldn't join if she would have to stop speaking to me....and they said they couldn't make her do anything...so she took it as them not caring if she speaks to me.
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"You are good people"
by ateograciasadios inthis story goes back 2 years, when my girlfriend and i traveled to my homecountry in south america to spend the summer visiting my family and friends.
although i was still attending the meetings back then, i had already been inactive for a while.
the developments since that visit have been slow but dramatic, and my perception of the people inside the organization has changed greatly.
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cultBgone
Your post surely reinforces the saying Actions Speak Louder Than Words. The jws preach/show kindness and love only share directions to a website.
How happy that your girlfriend's family is so kind and loving and obviously raised a wonderful daughter. The poor jws are stuck on auto-pilot and don't even know how to respond in a Human and Loving manner to people, unless perhaps it's someone in their own "service" group. Glad you woke up to TTATT and thank you for sharing your well-written post, I look forward to seeing many more! Be sure to relate your visit to the elderly hispanic couple (who's own fellow believers couldn't be bothered to help them out).
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Perfect Relationship, He Still Broke Up With Me
by tiff21390 inlast month, my best friend of four years and boyfriend of six months came home from a jehovah's witness convention.
he'd been acting strangely the entire weekend and i knew something was wrong.
i initiated a discussion and he said, "essentially our relationship is wrong and i'm not supposed to be with you.
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Dear Tiff --
Truly sorry you have experienced such heart- and gut-wrenching emotional issues with this person. This may sound cruel, but be thankful you did NOT marry and have children in this environment. I made the mistake of marrying a jw who didn't allow all the rules control him until something didn't go the way he wanted, and BAM he turned full-cult-personality on me. I was stuck. My kids were stuck. We were all emotionally traumatized by having him control our world. It was awful and we are scarred, but better, and have moved on. But that pain will never be forgotten and my kids were changed forever.
I've read many posts here about men who have been inactive jws for years, even decades, who come to some crisis point in their lives and decide, Hey I'm Going To The Convention! And the cult persona comes back 110% and their families are fractured. All the promises and plans made with their spouses turn to dust and seem to mean nothing to them. That's the danger of ever, ever dating or marrying even an ex-cult member...if they have not 100% embraced TTATT, they are in danger of returning at any time in the future and the relationship is always at risk.
You sound like a thoughtful, kind and generous spirit. You deserve the same and sorry to say, it won't be with him unless he walks away from his family and religion. It doesn't sound like that's in the cards, though, and I wouldn't wait for it to happen. At this point, if he left them, it would always be YOUR fault and your marriage would always be under a dark grey cloud.
Please take time to heal your wounds and move on to the future you deserve. Please continue to visit us here as you will get nothing but honest support and friendship and love.
(((tiff)))
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Advice about going to Meetings...................oh why didn't I listen...LOL!!!!!
by KateWild ini have been back to meetings for a month now.
prepared for them all except for when i went on holiday.. todays wt is about jehovah's organisation, it's clear loaded language and manipulation through fear.
i am not perturbed by it in the least.
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Kate, perhaps it's good that you were reminded (although in an unfortunate situation) of just how non-loving and rude the shunning policy causes people to become. It's sad, really.
And I had to laugh when you said you were now an activist...LOL!!! You, my dear, are the flag-bearer for exjw activists!!! We love you! ((((Kate))))
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Hello
by lurkernomore ini thought it was high time to introduce myself (without my name of course).
as my name would suggest i have been reading your intriguing post, thoughts and discussions for some time now.
around 3/4 months to be exact.. i guess to start with it would seem fitting to give a little background on my current situation.. i'm a born-in, but have over the last few years found that through a number of varying occurences, (some of which i may discuss in future posts) that my 'zeal' has gone from regular field service and meetings to no service in over a year and very sporadic meeting attendance.
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cultBgone
Lurker, welcome to you and Mrs. Lurker --- your news makes for many happy hearts!
You have a wonderful future ahead of you and I know you'll plan it out wisely. I'm looking forward to more of your posts and am thankful that you found the safety net of JWN. Yay!
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cultBgone
Same marketing consultants, no doubt. Very high-priced and holding contracts with secrecy clauses.
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JW.Org Blitz
by Theredeemer ini've noticed, partilcularly on instagram, a advertising blitz for jw.org by the dubs.
primarily its the younger ones 35 and under vs older ones.
i dont know if its just my friends or everyone but they are obsessed with jw.org.
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So my friend's daughter had a new job orientation today but she blew it off to go out with other dubs and post selfies with hashtags about "historic month" and "jw.org" and they are holding tracts that say "where can we find answers to the big questions about life?"
The saddest thing is that they have zero concept of reality yet think they know everything. So much wasted energy. So many wasted lives.
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Do you ever get frustrated and feel dirty after sharing experiences on JWN?
by BucketShopBill init's a giant boil on my butt, thinking how long we all were tricked by a cult.
reading so many of our fellows threads, it help's reinforce we made the correct choice in mentally or physically leaving the watchtower's path to truth, they never had it and nobody can prove they did!
ray franz jr. came to that conclusion, even he had to accept "this is not the best of all relgions, in fact, it's on the bad side!
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BSBill -- I think that's a common reaction for those newly out or fading. Just removing yourself from the physical presence of the cult doesn't clear all the cult-crap-thinking out of our heads, it takes time and venting and going through a rediscovery of self.
So yes, I think when I first began posting it was very uncomfortable (you know, having the big A word ringing in your ears). But with time and personal growth and removing the sticky cobwebs of cult thinking from my brain processes, it's definitely changed to a place of companionship and support.
Use JWN to vent, it's safe here (well, if you don't post personal data as we all know the crazy borg watches this site).
We are here to support each other, even if we don't always agree with one another. It's like REAL family, not the conditional jw kind.
Keep on the march to mental freedom!!!
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Will Elders Now "Grow A Pair"?
by metatron inas a former elder, i know that there was always friction with the c.o.
(funny.... sounds like "commanding officer, doesn't it?).
anyhow, i do wonder how much 'submission' or toadying many of these "men" can endure now that circuit overseers have been given absolute power.
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ADCMShirley -- very thoughtful and well-written post. It must be much more difficult for an elder to walk away than those of the sheeple class.
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Get well Grace (Mouthy)
by label licker ina loud get well grace from all of us to you.
everyone, grace has been in and out of the hospital and i'm sure she would love to read your get wells.
we miss you grace:) wish i could post pictures.
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Grace, so wonderful to see your post and know that you're still here to keep us in line!!!