"You are good people"

by ateograciasadios 8 Replies latest jw friends

  • ateograciasadios
    ateograciasadios

    This story goes back 2 years, when my girlfriend and I traveled to my homecountry in South America to spend the summer visiting my family and friends. Although I was still attending the meetings back then, I had already been inactive for a while. The developments since that visit have been slow but dramatic, and my perception of the people inside the organization has changed greatly. Interestingly, I never went back to the KH once I arrived to the US, and all this time I had not had any real interaction with the witnesses. Not until an hour ago.

    But before I tell that story, I have to set up the context of the last couple of weeks. My girlfriend , who works for a human rights NGO, was invited to participate in a program that helps refugees locally. She gladly accepted because she was really excited to work with people from other countries who have moved to the US, especially because she misses having direct contact with real people in need. Since May, when I came to visit her for the summer, she told me that she was being assigned a elderly couple from a latinamerican country, which was ideal given that she speaks perfect Spanish. The great day finally came 2 weeks ago, when she traveled more than an hour to their house. When she got back home, she smiled and offered me an invitation to the international convention in DC that the old lady had given her in return for their help with filling paper-work for foodstamps, an English lesson, and even groceries. 'Wow, this is so ironic!' she said, and kept on telling me how insistently they preached to her about their faith and their organization.

    'Why' you ask? When we visited my family 2 years ago, we had a great time. However, my dad and mom, as the good witnesses they are, treated her as the worldly person she is. Enough to say that they interacted only twice during 3 months: when we arrived and I introduced her, and the night before we flew back to the US. Although I had explained that they do not really hold anything personal against her, it became impossible to justify the fact that they are forced to treat her with some distance because they do not want to give the impression they are supporting our relationship. Hard to swallow, as you can imagine, but she accepted the situation.

    This is when everything becomes ironic. Shortly after we came back, I suffered an accident and fractured my left arm while visiting my girlfriend's family in Texas. After surgery, and I had to stop my classes for a semester, time during which I was overwhelmed not only by pain, but also by the fact that I was fighting with the insurance company to pay the medical bills. During all this time, my girlfriend's family took care of my physical needs, and became a source a great moral support. Is it not ironic that such a Catholic family was treating me like one of them, especially after what my family did to her?

    Fast-forward to earlier today. We spent the most amazing day with some friends in the beach. When we got back, she was hungry and we headed towards a restaurant nearby in downtown DC. The place was packed with witnesses who are attending the convention this weekend. I think there were at least 20 witnesses, and some 6 other worldly people, including us. After ordering our food and seating next to the group of witnesses, we realized there was a lady who was fainting over her food a couple of tables from ours. We waited a bit to make sure that she was not sleeping, and when the situation became unconfortable, we asked her if she needed help. She was apparently having an Diabetes episode, although we could not really understand what she was saying. Just about the same time, all the witnesses started leaving the place. A couple of them came to inquire about the lady who was obviously having a hard time, but the rest of the group kept just stearing at us through the window. After a group of paramedics arrived to attend the lady, we went back to our table, and saw that the witness in the next table had forgotten his wallet, so I picked it up and reached to the last guy of the group leaving the place. 'You are good people' he said. 'If you only knew!!!' I screamed inside. He continued: 'We are Jehovah's Witness, and we are having a convention here this week'. We had a short conversation about where we and they were from. When it was time to say good-bye, he hesitantly said 'well, do you know this website?' while showing us a badge with the JW.org logo. We said 'yes, we know about you guys'.

    So many things to reflect upon came back to me at once. First of all, I was shocked that the group of witness did not offer to help this poor lady. Although I cannot say for sure that they had seen her, I can only explain their ineffectiveness if I assume they did not offer help first because sometimes we all are afraid of reaching out to people, especially when it is difficult to discern whether the situation is urgent. Yet, I find it unacceptable that the witness came to help only after other people had taken action. I can actually imagine a group of guys watching a Football game reacting faster.

    I am just happy that I made my first interaction with a group of witness a 'witnessing' opportunity. They guy who talked to us recognized that there are 'good people' outside 'Jehovah's organization'. I am sure he means well and is a nice person, but it is a pity that instead of being working for human-rights defense, helping the poor in his area, and taking care of the sick without even asking if they believe in Jehovah, he is reduced to invite people to visit a website. Inside, he knows the JW.org is a joke. The tone of his voice, and the way he invited us to check it out gives him away. They will always say they do social and community work, yet I know my family is not unique among the witnesses. They are a microcosmos of what happen inside this cult, and I have observed how they cannot even show the normal love and respect that humans naturally feel for one another, just because the WT society tells them so.

    For now, the plan is for me to visit the elderly couple before I leave town later this month. Perhaps I will have another chance to 'witness'.

  • LoisLane looking for Superman
    LoisLane looking for Superman

    Interesting story.

    Thank you for sharing.

    LL

  • Pete Zahut
    Pete Zahut

    Interesting story. The guy in the restaurant probably thought you'd make a "good Jehovah's Witness" since you were so nice and all. He'll probably relate the experience at the next meeting and tell everyone how he planted a seed and how well the JW.org campaign is working out.

    JW.Org is apparently their tool of choice these days....you don't have to even say anything much yourself....just point to your JW.Org button.

    Your JW parents have "principals" to uphold....unlike your girlfriends Catholic parents who apparently can be kind without thought.

  • Listener
    Listener

    'well, do you know this website?' while showing us a badge with the JW.org logo

    This is so corny and hopefully it will wake some JWs up when they compare their witnessing to the sort of real witness you just gave.

  • Ignoranceisbliss
    Ignoranceisbliss

    That's an interesting story. Thanks for sharing

  • losingit
    losingit

    Is the International Convention a week long? They talked about it very briefly on the news , basically informing ppl that there would be extra traffic bc of missionaries from out of the country visiting. Also they posted something on the highway sign alerting ppl to extra DC traffic, but Idk if it's related to the IC.

    Anyways , definitely an interesting experience. I think the problem with most jws is that they have no real idea what charity and doing for others really means. *Sometimes* they help each other out pf the kindness in their heart, but to non-jws? Only if it's to witness. I struggled with this so much-- the in-group mentality. I'm thankful you were there to help the

    woman in need. And I'm thankful for the brother who showed you his IC badge-- just reinforced the silliness and the inanity

    of the witnesses! Geezzz I was embarrassed myself about being a Witness after about 5 or more years in.

    Im happy you have your gf and her family to show you true love and concern. You are a blessed/fortunate man.

  • JWdaughter
    JWdaughter

    Yeah, the witnesses get all the "good people" and convince them that only by ignoring all their "good" instincts and refrain from offering any kind of practical human assistance can one truly be acceptable to (their) god. Channel all your "goodness" into advertising for JW.org.

  • cultBgone
    cultBgone

    Your post surely reinforces the saying Actions Speak Louder Than Words. The jws preach/show kindness and love only share directions to a website.

    How happy that your girlfriend's family is so kind and loving and obviously raised a wonderful daughter. The poor jws are stuck on auto-pilot and don't even know how to respond in a Human and Loving manner to people, unless perhaps it's someone in their own "service" group. Glad you woke up to TTATT and thank you for sharing your well-written post, I look forward to seeing many more! Be sure to relate your visit to the elderly hispanic couple (who's own fellow believers couldn't be bothered to help them out).

  • problemaddict
    problemaddict

    Should have wrote JWfacts.com on a napkin for him. :)

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