It won't hurt anything if you tranfer to please your parents, as others have said. If you need their financial support, and they are not freaked out about your going to college, what's the harm? Show up a few Sundays, do field service1 - 2x/month to keep everyone happy and off your back. You know the door to door isn't fruitful, so just enjoy the coffee. and then claim a few more hours so everything looks normal for now. You can do a diapppearing act as soon as you're done with school. For now, you have to play the game in order to achieve your objective. THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL.
ruderedhead
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Should I move officially to this new cong?
by will-be-apostate inso i got in college recently (petroleum engineering), which is 150+ miles away from my home town.
i started to go to the meetings once in a while to please my parents because i hate lieing to them, although i did several times regarding meetings.. last time an elder - special pioneer - came to me at the hall and asked me if i had already thought about transfering my 'files' aka.
publisher card to that congregation.
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Been away a long while...
by Aussie Oz init has been 5 months since my last post here.
it has been very nice to have forgotten jehovahs witnesses.
my life got so busy running my biz that i just had no time to concentrate on anything else for a while.
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ruderedhead
Well done! Brief & to the point.
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A mistake in fading 4 months ago is coming back to haunt me... HELP!!
by ILoveTTATT inso today, two elders from a congregation i was in two years ago came by the house.
they said they wanted to talk to me about things that they have heard, and that they want to talk to me very quickly, as soon as possible.
perhaps before this week ends.. i don't know what to do!!
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ruderedhead
Do NOT meet with them until YOU are ready.And if you're never ready, that's fine.
Certainly you can come up with a valid sounding reason to "reschedule" your meeting. Something at work, with school, suddenly not feeling well, something. But make sure you apologize, sound sincere, give them as much notice as possible & tell them you will get back with them as soon as you can to see what other date will work for all of you. Then ignore them. Use caller i.d. to ignore their calls, do not respond to emails,Don't answer the door, and for goodness sake, say NOTHING on fb for now. You still have your Mom to think about. Do what is easiest and best for you. I have a feeling this might go away after the co visit.
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Wife and kids are officially OUT!!
by Oneoutallout inmy wife has told her jw best friend and jw sister that she is givng up the religion!!
and there was i worrying about losing her when i left the cult.
and, to top it all, my 15 and 13 year old children are using their critical thinking skills and can see it all for what it is.
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ruderedhead
Congratulations!!!
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I have a Grandson!
by watson inmy first grandson, and he is beautiful.
i remember so clearly thinking i would never graduate from high school in this "system of things".. .
this boy will play soccer/football/basketball/band/baseball/camp, whatever the h, e, double l, he is passionate about.. .
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ruderedhead
WOOT-WOOT! CONGRATS!!!
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ruderedhead
Laika, I know this time of year can make some people feel a little more lonely. And you're right, making friends can be easier said than done. But you need unconditional friends, ones who will stick with you whatever your religious beliefs.
Many organizations need volunteers. Can you find one that you'd like to be a part of and join? That is one way to meet new people. What about workmates? Can you ask one or two to meet for dinner with you? Do you belong to a church? There are some very active churches where you could not only do some good in the community, but meet new people. There are multilpe ways to meet others with similar interests, the hard part is putting yourself out there. But if you dislike dishonesty, it's the way to go!
Hang tough!
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The fiance brought in witnesses today oh joy. QUESTIONS
by OneStepOut93 inso it's been seven months since i moved out of my parents place and in with my (now) fiance.
they came to our door this morning and it's been a long time since i spoke to my parents.
i was never disfellowshipped because i was never baptized but there is still online limited contact.
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ruderedhead
Wondering what you decided to do, One Step? Hope it all worked out o.k. for you!
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The fiance brought in witnesses today oh joy. QUESTIONS
by OneStepOut93 inso it's been seven months since i moved out of my parents place and in with my (now) fiance.
they came to our door this morning and it's been a long time since i spoke to my parents.
i was never disfellowshipped because i was never baptized but there is still online limited contact.
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ruderedhead
OneStep, you don't beleive in this religion, correct? While it's very loving of your fiance to want to mend your relationship with your parents, that relationship needs to be based in truth and mutual respect. Why are you going to subject yourself to a meeting at the KH that you don't want to be at?
My personal opinion is that you should call your parents ( or whomever is picking you up tomorrow )this evening and tell them you have thought about it and do not wish to attend. Your relationship with God is personal, it's YOUR relationship with Him, and you have some different beliefs than they do. Be respectful, non-judgemental and kind. But be firm that this is a NON-NEGOTIABLE matter. Tell them you love them & will respect their beliefs, but ask that they show you the same courtesy. Don't go into details right now. Don't argue or debate.
You only get one shot at life, honey. Make sure you're the one calling the shots in your own life. I pray that they try to understand. All the best to you on your journey.
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Oh how time flies!!
by coffee_black intoday is my grandson's 19th birthday.
you may remember him from 4 1/2 years ago when he walked from orlando florida to washington dc to call attention to the plight of homeless children in the u.s. he is now in college, and continues to be involved in helping those less fortunate, and plans to make that his life's work.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/172666/1/exciting-news-helping-step-by-step#.un5gehckq0c.
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ruderedhead
What an amazing grandson you have!
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Why do some JW`s get married multiple times ? Isnt that an indictment against jw beleifs ?
by smiddy inthis isnt a slight against any here who have married more than once.
and of course if you have left the religion you are not bound by their doctrines.. however i am concerned with jehovahs witnesses, people in good standing within the congregation who have married multiple times , and it seems it is not a rare occurence .their seems to be many who have married 2 or 3 times.
i personally knew a sister that was married 5 times and was a sister in good standing .admittedly this may have been an exception .. however divorce is not an isolated incidence with jehovahs witnesses , nor is it isolated that the witnesses themselves initiate divorce proceedings .. another thing , jehovahs witnesses are only 8 million world, a wide a small sect compared to other major religions.. so i just wonder what the ratio of jw`s compared to mainstream religion is regarding divorce .. can anybody fill in these figures ?
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ruderedhead
Interesting thread. Made me think. Woman who studied with me, who was VERY judgmental,(and whose kids were brats) married 3xs. All ended in divorce. Woman(jw) I met when I moved to new congo, who got me into network marketing (what was I thinking?), also married & divorced 3x. Several others as well. Some middle age, some in their 20's. Might be a conversation point if I ever run into a witness. Ther rarely come to my door, tho. And when I see one in public,which is rare, usually they ignore me. Not sure if its on purpose, or it's just been so long.