Posts by ruderedhead

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Today is my birthday

by Gojira_101 in

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well so far it is a fantastic day!

i know my grandma isn't going to call me like she does every year to say she is happy i was born.

you know the jw form of wishing someone a happy birthday.

ruderedhead

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I HOPE IT'S AWESOME!

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hello ,i am a jw,been in the "truth " for about 6 years.i have to be very careful because i know the witnesses monitors sites and report to the elders ,i know cause that is what my blood sister does,she spends hours trying to find apostates in the closet.i know stuped.. so this is my situation.i have known about jw almost all my life and heard that only them have the truth,lots of my family are in it.i was the one taking too long to baptize ,i knew it was expected from me.and i always had a need to make ppl like me .so i took the dip.i started to notice that there are lots of jws that belong to little groups.i wanted friendship so bad and at the time had a need o tell ppl about my horrible childhood traumas i guess i was not over it yet,and needed some to lisent since i had drove my spouse nuts already .what happend this ppl pretend to want to be close to me so they can know all my business and then tell everyone at the hall.then you realize uhhh,they never confided their personal stuff to me.is like a game " you can tell me your stuff,but do not expect me to keep it to myself and do not think i will tell you my dirty laundry.a lot of mind games.. so i was alone ,invisible ,i still can't believe i put up with so much !

i can't wright not even half of what i when through.i feel paranoic now.so i came across a youtube video by jwstruggle and blow my mind ,now i can't stop researching,my spouse is not a jw,and is very shock too.so i decided that i want to fade,i guess it won't be so hard since the sis and brothers did not had a close relationship with me.i have kids and i suffer from pts ,anxiety attacks,panick attacks and severe depression.i moved to the next town of my hall,so i have change hall too.i have not been to my new hall,and wanted to know,will the elders in my old hall contact the elders in my new hall just to see if i am attending?..

my spouse told me " i will tell them i am not letting you go" "and "i found out that your liars!

ruderedhead

Welcome, free!

It sounds as if you have been through quite a bit. Since you are in a new hall, I would suggest simply flying under the radar for now. You have a supportive spouse & your children, so you will still have your family. Don't go to the hall as that may bring out more jw's to "see how you are doing", and if you have caller i.d., simply don't answer the phone when the jw's call. If you don't have caller i.d., let calls go to your answering machine/voicemail when no one else is home to answer (if it's a jw, they are to be told you can't come to the phone). If one comes to the door, it's simply a very bad time for you to talk. They will probably leave you alone after a while if you don't talk against them. You may find your stress and anxiety levels go down after you get over the initial guilt of not going to the hall or associating with the jw's.

If you haven't already, please check out jwfacts.com. That may help to alleviate your guilt as well!

All the best to you on your journey!

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Black or white what Racial Discrimination have you experienced?

by usualusername in

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i could give you hundreds of experiences but let me kick off with the following.

i boarded a train at 4am heading to an airport a few weeks ago.

in my carriage there were at least 100 people.. .

ruderedhead

My daughter and I were in the Detroit airport waiting for a flight. She was about 15 at the time. We went into one of the fast food restaurants to get something to eat, and could not get waited on. There were no other customers in the place. Every last employee just stood there and stared at us, and would not respond when I asked to order. Just stared at us. They were all black, my daughter & I are white. She didn't understand what was happening, I didn't see a need to explain it to her. We just went somewhere else. Will this nonsense ever end?

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Hey I'm going to be a great Granny

by mouthy in

to twins!!!!!!

melanie ( my daughter that passed away in 1999 that had twins,)tara & ashley .

( who posted on here years ago.

ruderedhead

Congratulations!!!

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Ridiculous Hospital Experience Regarding My Non-JW Brother

by MrFreeze in

so a couple weeks ago my brother went into the hospital.

the only time anybody could have told them he was jw was on the ambulance.

i asked her about how he got switched to being a jehovah's witness.

ruderedhead

Hopefully there will never be a next time, but if there is, ASK YOUR SISTER IN LAW TO HAVE YOUR MOM stay with the child, while she rides with her husband. She is the one with the latest medical info., anyways

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Are there any former Circuit Overseers on this site?

by Robert7 in

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i've seen responses from a number of elders, but have any co's become enlightened?

ruderedhead

rocketman, why are you letdown by this experience? It was an amazing story of one mans awakening from the wt into truth. He studied on his own, used his critical thinking skills, and was not bullied into backing down. He used his brain, and helped others exit as well. They all found the truth in the Bible, not the wt. To escape and be able to take others with you is a wonderful thing!

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Needed - a printable 2013 DC badge

by venetian in

is anyone able to post this years dc badge for printing?.

i'm a man with a plan .

mawahhhhhhh!.

ruderedhead

Do you think anyone would bother you without a badge? I never wore the stupid badges, and no one ever questioned why. People record parts at the assemblies/conventions all the time. If you do it quietly, I wonder if anyone would bother you? They might just think you are interested, and don't give them reason to believe otherwise. All the best to you in your adventure!

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'Great ROI'...successfully fading

by Skipper12 in

6 months or so ago, me and my wife decided we will never set foot again in a kingdom hall.

about 4 months earlier than that, i stumbled upon an article about the wts being associated with the un.

that got me into finding out ttat eventually.

ruderedhead

That is awesome! Very happy for you and your family. Keep up the good work. Just proceed slowly.

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payback? bitterly upset....

by losingit in

i don't even know where to start.. more than anything, i'd like to say that i am not a woman of vengeance.

i am very much a forgiving person.

if you say "i'm sorry," and you're genuine, i can move on from it quickly and easily.

ruderedhead

losingit, I'm so sorry for your pain. It will get better in time.

Please don't seek revenge. It could come back to bite you in the butt if he fights for custody. Or it could cause him to decide to fight for cusody. They could say you are unstable, stalking people, who knows what baloney they could come up with. Continue your own counseling to help you and the children with the adjustments. It may also help you in figuring out why you felt you deserved what you have called an abusive relationship, so you don't repeat it.

I believe that what you are doing now is probably a good thing in terms of going to some of the meetings. Don't rock the boat until the divorce is final. Fly under the radar. He can take them when he has them, but after you are divorced, you do not have to take them. You can save them from this religion, and the pain you are experiencing. For now, reading the Bible with them is a wonderful thing! and find a good attorney. Interview more than one, ask non- witnesses for references. Just do it QUIETLY, AND DON'T LET THE CHILDREN KNOW, SO THEY CANNOT CLUE DAD IN.

Find your own way now. Figure out what it is you want to do. How do you want to support yourself? How can you achieve that? Take your time to figure it out. You will find new, true friends along the way. Can you do some volunteer work at your childrens school to fill some of the void you are feeling socially? Give yourself time to find your way back to normalcy, and know that there are many here who care,and will listen without judging. Much happiness to you.

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Can you help me encourage Reopened mind.

by TotallyADD in

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friends

as most of you know we got a very angry letter from our oldest son.

it hurt her very much.

i feel so bad for her because he attacked her for what i feel was very unfair.

ruderedhead

reopened mind, I'm so sorry you are going through this! We all do the very best that we can, no parent is perfect. I don't even want to think about the do-overs I wish I could have! Sometimes we become our childrens punching bags as they work through their issues as adults. Hopefully he will see you for the wonderful person you are soon. Love to you.