Posts by ruderedhead

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Non JW girl with a JW guy

by Accio in

i want to talk about my story because i need help and advice and most impirtant a lot of comfort.. one year and a half ago i met a wonderful guy.

he was really nice and supporyed me during hard moments.

i slowly fell in love with him.

ruderedhead

Accio, I'm so sorry for your heartbreak! But jw's aren't supposed to date/marry non-jw's. He knew this when he started a relationship with you.

Please consider seeking professional help. Does the school you attend have counseling services that you can use? If not, can they recommend one that is affordable to you? Perhaps the other problems in your life, combined with the fact that he was there during them, are making the loss of him seem more difficult. But you need professional help now. You are becoming physically ill from this man's exit from your life, and it seems he is stringing you along, just in case, or perhaps because he is confused as well. No matter, YOU SHOULD NOT GIVE ANYONE THAT KIND OF POWER OVER YOU. YOU NEED TO TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK AND MOVE FORWARD, LIVING THE BEST LIFE YOU POSSIBLY CAN! Don't you think you deserve it, with someone who won't play games, intentionally or not? Again, please seek professional counseling, and try to focus your energies/attention on your schooling. All the best to you, Accio. and we are all here for you as well, if you need a shoulder to cry on.

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Circuit Oversneer Says. . .

by piztjw in

"do you realize how much of a privelge it is to enjoy the visit of the circuit overseer?

they are appointed by the governing body who in turn are apointed by jesus and holy spirit.

so you have a great privilege when we visit your congregation, because it is the same thing as having jesus visit you.

ruderedhead

You heard it with your very own ears, piztjw?

I can't believe I was a member of that organiztion.

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How Cold is it Where You Are?

by PYRAMIDSCHEME in

jw
friends

with the polar vortex swirling further and further south and breaking records how cold is it where you are?.

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here in gettysburg pa last night night we hit a low of -4 degrees but we were blessed with some wind that dropped the wind chill down to -22..

ruderedhead

We are at 20 below in Michigan. But it's going to be 15 tomorrow!

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Epic FAIL! :( My sister is gone from me.

by Faithful Witness in

got this email from my sister today.

there is a lot of back story, and this isn't a surprise.

it will be interesting to see how it affects the rest of the family, if they hear about it or not.

ruderedhead

If you are going to respond, this is a great response, in my opinion. You may or may not want to take Bible Student's advice about the paragraph to eliminate. Student does make a good point. I think it is good either way. You know your sister, not us, and you are the one who will have to deal with any outcome.

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More indoctrination of young people.

by quellycatface in

just come back from having coffee at a local cafe.

saw one of the sisters in my ex-kh having a study with a young girl (say 17 or so).

i think they were looking at the "draw close to weasel head book.

ruderedhead

Why do you think they were at a cafe? Perhaps her parents disapprove of her studying with the witnesses?

If you ever see them again, maybe you can walk over and introduce yourself? Tell the 17 y.o. a afew things about the witnesses she won't get from the adultress. False doctrine, shunning, your story? Maybe you could save her from this cult. 17 is a very vulnerable age.

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Dumb ass cultish elders

by Crazyguy in

ok so i'm not officaily da'd as of yet and the elders (2) come over to my house and want to talk with my wife.

so i'm thinking there looking for more info on me and ask her to go sit with them in their car since there was no place for privacy at my house.

then a few minutes later my wife calls me and asks me to meet them out at the car and they drive around and i get in.

ruderedhead

Crazy, Searcher is so right! Please STOP PLAYING BY THEIR RULES. The only one you need to use here is to exercise your headship. Please tell them that they are NOT to speak to your wife without you present, and tell them in your wife's presence. Inform her she is not to talk to them without you present.

Why on Earth did they need privacy to tell your wife they thought your child had been molested? That is YOUR child as well. You don't play games with something like that! She went out to their car? That is just insane! Read your post. Imagine what normal people would think if they read something like that! They'd think what a bunch of nut jobs! Please consider putting your foot down (gently), and stopping the B.S. If you're gentle but firm, it should stop the crap.

I hope things lighten up for you soon. Husbands and wives should not have to deal with this kind of outside interference.

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After 44 years I finally found and spoke to my old prison buddy!

by Terry in

i have had very few mentors in my life.

i love each of them dearly.. one such was a man a bit older than me named tollie padget.. .

tollie was the rarest of rare birds.

ruderedhead

I'm sorry for your loss. It has to be heartbreaking for you. But you still have your good memories of your friendship. I hope you will still cherish them.

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My little sister

by Nika Bee in

my little sister is 14 years younger than me.

she was always special to me, i took care of her, when my mother was working, i carried her around, i comforted her.

we are very similar in our interests for music and literature.. she is in secondary school, an unbaptised publisher.. since i study in the us, we only see each other about once a year.

ruderedhead

Sleep on it, write down what you would like to say to her, look it over, add or delete. As others have said, let her know you will always love her unconditionally, just as Christ did/does. The people who she sees every day are influencing her, ask some questions. I hope this all works out.

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Epic FAIL! :( My sister is gone from me.

by Faithful Witness in

got this email from my sister today.

there is a lot of back story, and this isn't a surprise.

it will be interesting to see how it affects the rest of the family, if they hear about it or not.

ruderedhead

Awww, I'm sorry your sister is being this way, Faithful. It sucks, but it's the way she's been programmed, and she's probably getting advice/"encouragement" from those in her congregation, possibly including the elders.

I'm going to go against the tide here and suggest that you NOT respond. You are afraid that she might start to turn your Mom against you, so you need to back off for now, and talk to Mom. Maybe when you're talking to her about the situation between your sister & you, you could gently bring up that your family have NEVER BEEN WITNESSES. And that your sister's behavior certainly does not make it seem like a loving organization, with warm, loving Christian people. Instead it looks like a punitve, mean one with mean, punitive people. Think like we do, or we discard you! A poor witness, and when people hear about how you're being treated by them, they certainly want nothing to do with the witnesses! I know you would do this with love and kindness, not being accusatory in any way. I wouldn't make it a long conversation, as you don't want to cause your Mom too much anxiety over the controversy between her daughters. Have a great day, I hope this doesn't go on too long. Who knows, maybe this will be a catalyst to help your Mom see the light? Keep researching the witnesses and their doctrines so you can answer questions she may have later on.

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What Drew You To The Witnesses?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i did believe for the first 30 years of my life that they had been picked by jehovah god to dispense the truth as best as imperfect humans could.

then, everything became questionable.

i had read anti jw books in the past but franz's books really got to me but not immediately.

ruderedhead

The woman who became my study conductor was a pitbull. If you answered the door, she was not going to give up. I thought it must be God's organization if she kept coming back when I was looking for some answers. I didn't even like her, and her kids were brats!

I always questioned the Trinity, but had never asked a pastor, so their teaching/belief on that subject was was a major thing for me. It's usually more than one thing, tho, if your not a born-in, don't you think?