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  The fiance brought in witnesses today oh joy. QUESTIONS

  by OneStepOut93 in

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  so it's been seven months since i moved out of my parents place and in with my (now) fiance.

  they came to our door this morning and it's been a long time since i spoke to my parents.

  i was never disfellowshipped because i was never baptized but there is still online limited contact.

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  ruderedhead

  OneStep, you don't beleive in this religion, correct? While it's very loving of your fiance to want to mend your relationship with your parents, that relationship needs to be based in truth and mutual respect. Why are you going to subject yourself to a meeting at the KH that you don't want to be at?

  My personal opinion is that you should call your parents ( or whomever is picking you up tomorrow )this evening and tell them you have thought about it and do not wish to attend. Your relationship with God is personal, it's YOUR relationship with Him, and you have some different beliefs than they do. Be respectful, non-judgemental and kind. But be firm that this is a NON-NEGOTIABLE matter. Tell them you love them & will respect their beliefs, but ask that they show you the same courtesy. Don't go into details right now. Don't argue or debate.

  You only get one shot at life, honey. Make sure you're the one calling the shots in your own life. I pray that they try to understand. All the best to you on your journey.
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  Oh how time flies!!

  by coffee_black in

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  today is my grandson's 19th birthday.

  you may remember him from 4 1/2 years ago when he walked from orlando florida to washington dc to call attention to the plight of homeless children in the u.s. he is now in college, and continues to be involved in helping those less fortunate, and plans to make that his life's work.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/172666/1/exciting-news-helping-step-by-step#.un5gehckq0c.

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  ruderedhead

  What an amazing grandson you have!
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  Why do some JW`s get married multiple times ? Isnt that an indictment against jw beleifs ?

  by smiddy in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  this isnt a slight against any here who have married more than once.

  and of course if you have left the religion you are not bound by their doctrines.. however i am concerned with jehovahs witnesses, people in good standing within the congregation who have married multiple times , and it seems it is not a rare occurence .their seems to be many who have married 2 or 3 times.

  i personally knew a sister that was married 5 times and was a sister in good standing .admittedly this may have been an exception .. however divorce is not an isolated incidence with jehovahs witnesses , nor is it isolated that the witnesses themselves initiate divorce proceedings .. another thing , jehovahs witnesses are only 8 million world, a wide a small sect compared to other major religions.. so i just wonder what the ratio of jw`s compared to mainstream religion is regarding divorce .. can anybody fill in these figures ?

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  Interesting thread. Made me think. Woman who studied with me, who was VERY judgmental,(and whose kids were brats) married 3xs. All ended in divorce. Woman(jw) I met when I moved to new congo, who got me into network marketing (what was I thinking?), also married & divorced 3x. Several others as well. Some middle age, some in their 20's. Might be a conversation point if I ever run into a witness. Ther rarely come to my door, tho. And when I see one in public,which is rare, usually they ignore me. Not sure if its on purpose, or it's just been so long.
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  Spring hill fl JW kid is forced to pledge allegiance tothe flag

  by DS211 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  saw this article on yahoo.

  there was a little jw kid whose teacher made him stand up and salute the flag and/or say the pledge in class.

  he went to the administrator and she got suspended.....my lord the jws are going to be shouting great trib over this.

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  This teacher needs to be fired. I saw the article yesterday, and as blondie said, this teacher forced his hand not once, but on a second occassion as well. This child was humiliated at only 6, trying to do what his parents told him would please God, and will probably carry the memory of this humiliation for the rest of his school years. What she did is illegal, she has no compassion for children, and should not be allowed to teach them. She needs to get her degree to teach at the college level, where the students can fight back.
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  Circuit Overseer who gave talk at Twickenham is DIsfellowshipped

  by usualusername in

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  evening.

  i have it from 1st hand (or second) that a circuit overseer who gave a talk at twickenham in august 2013 has been disfellowshipped.. .

  my dilemma?

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  No, UUN, please don't be indiscreet and give out his name. His title & location give away enough information about him. And please don't give details unless you are certain they are facts.

  I know you want to help others who are trying to get loved ones out, but not by possibly hurting someone. The wt does enough damage.
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  Drop the bomb!

  by apocalypse in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i had a chance to drop a bomb on a 'bro' that i have known many years.

  you should'a been there.. (this is the second time in less than 2 months i have dropped this particular bomb on a bro and in this manner).

  before i tell the story, which you will enjoy, note that i have remained "in" the org for many years after finding out the ttatt.. 1) for the sake of family (limited time left).

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  ruderedhead

  That is amazing! Great technique. Keep up the good work.
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  My friends visitation is tonight all of her JW family will be there

  by troubled mind in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  today i need some encouraging support ..i will be attending my friends funeral visitation tonight .. we had been jws together since childhood ,and then three yrs ago she was dfd .

  we have supported each other these past few yrs with encouragement .she comes from a huge jw family, and they all plan on attending tonight.

  i have known them all my life ,and they hate me for leaving the cult.

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  I'm so sorry for your loss, Troubled Mind. You'll be in my thoughts.

  Try to stay calm and be gracious in order to honor your dear friend. It might be hard, but you can do it. Don't give the ones that likje to gossip anything to talk about. Talk about what an exceptional person your friend was, loving, forgiving, kind. Did she still believe in God? Perhaps you could comment on how she valued her relationship with Him.

  Please know that many of us on here will be thinking of you. You know you can come here to vent when it's over, so if you're angry, bring it back here.

  All the best.
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  Big thanks to everyone

  by joe134cd in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i can't believe in the short time that i have been visiting ex-jw forums at just how much i have grown.

  since i first stumbled on this site i have stopped going to the meetings.

  i do feel a bit lonely, but am trying to manage it.

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  I've often wondered how I could have fallen for it, too, and why I didn't listen to those nagging doubts.

  You'll eventually make new friends and find new things you want to do. I have made many new friends by being active in the community & schools. Here's to the rest of your life, joe. The best is yet to come!
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  ELDERS CAME KNOCKING AT MY DOOR

  by wakingup60 in

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  so this is the situation..........haven't been to meeting for the past 10 months....misssed dc as well as 2 day assemblies.. i have woken up to the fact that the watchtower is not god's organization so their is absolutely no way iam going.

  to give the elders any of my time.

  i have no desire to agree to a sherherding call!.

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  ruderedhead

  wakingup, I was in the same place as you. I had no family in, so I just wrote a letter DA'ing, telling them I found some of their doctrines to be false after doing some research, & I wanted NO ONE TO CONTACT ME, and wished them well. Haven't heard a peep.

  Find a church you feel comfortable at. It may take a while, but you will find one. All the best to you!
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  So Frightened.. Extremely Afraid

  by Caupon in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as some of you may know, i'm a pretty troubled lad who was on the verge of getting baptised but stopped when i learned the shocking truth about the organization.

  following that my own mother let me have it in anger to my decision.

  since then, my life has been true hell.. .

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  ruderedhead

  You're overthinking it, Caupon. I've been guilty of overthinking minor things many times, and it's just not worth the stress! Relax.