One of my favorite supervisors at work likes to use this phrase:
"We need to either fish or cut bait, but we need to stop trying to do both."
What helped my family and I was to just get completely out. There are 7 million Witnesses. There are 7 billion people on Earth. Your chances are statistically higher finding true friendship outside the organization than within.
I haven't spoken to my biological family who are Witnesses in years. I am actually happier being completely free of the Witnesses than being active or inactive.