This is a hard one for me to reply too,
and Maverick, I think I have been ticketed by your brother.
When my kids were babies I could never let them cry. They were not manipulitive at such a young age. What they wanted was comfort and assurance that someone was there for them. I would always pick them up and hold or rock them or feed them.
When they got older, and learned the pre-school of manipulation, they would cry for things they wanted, but I knew were not good for them, candy for breakfast, candy for lunch, no naps when they were being psychotic, and candy for dinner. The crying did not affect me, upset me yes, but not change my parenting knowledge, even though there were times I would of gave them a chocolate cake for breakfast to shut them up. < that was for Cosby fans >
So crying as an adult I view as being once again appropriate for the situation, is someone crying over the death of a family member or friend? Getting fired? A divorce? A miscarriage? A birth? etc?
Or are they crying because they want a new Mercedez Benz? and they can't have one?
Crying on both genders is cool..as long as it is for the appropriate reasons.
