Grace, I'm so glad that OOMPA has you for a friend --- and for a connection to reality.
Gosh, the religion interferes with so many lives in such harsh ways. I agree with another poster who suggested going to the newspapers with the story. My reason for that: If we keep quiet about the jw interference, perhaps we are "enabling" such disrespectful behavior to continue longer than it needs to.
Sending positive vibes to OOMPA and family,
satinka