Posts by satinka

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I hate being ugly!

by Space Madness in

jw
friends

i finally came to the realization that i am ugly.

i'm 28 years old and never had a girlfriend.

women pay me absolutely no attention when i'm in public.

satinka

I just bet you aren't ugly. Perhaps you were conditioned to believe you are ugly because you can't measure up to the JW standard of perfection. But then, no one can.

Take it easy on yourself!

satinka

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Thought this was great advice...

by HappyOutsideTheBox in

http://www.upworthy.com/a-4-year-old-girl-asked-a-lesbian-if-shes-a-boy-she-responded-the-awesomest-way-possible.

hotb .

Where you the door knocker encourager in your congregation?

by jam in

to be honest i figured until i received some pleasure, enjoyment.

in waking people up on their day off, there was no way i was going.

to pressure anyone else to do the same.

satinka

Clarity wrote:

as I was told we had J's protection, a 'sister' in the group was taking an older lady to the doors ....& the older one fell on icy steps! She broke her hip ...never recovered & died about 6 mths later

I'll just bet that gave you some ... clarity!

satinka

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I don´t fit in here, so goodbye and take everyone.

by Mr Fool in

after some reflections i have come to the decision to disfellowship myself from here, permanently.

many interesting argumentations sometimes, thank you adamah for many clever reflections.

criticizing in a bad manner of members and arrogant "i know better than you"-attitudes is a part of it.

Most of us have felt the way you feel, about not fitting in. It is because if you were born and raised a jw, you, like a square peg have been squeezed mercilessly and unceremoniously into a round hole, all your life. Your body felt uncomfortable, yet it didn't stop your parents or whoever from squeezing. You had to do uncomfortable things your entire jw life, such as going to meetings, spend Saturday mornings going door-to-door at risk of seeing your classmates, talking a "different language" to try and fit into the jw mold. That uncomfortable feeling, comparable to wearing shoes that are too tight became the "norm" and you forgot what true comfort and fit was. Just the squeezing of you into that awful mold which was too small and prevented your soul from growing into something that you actually liked or heaven forbid, loved!

It takes awhile to get back to normal after leaving, or even trying to leave the jws.

Don't worry, Mr Fool, most of us here understand your discomfort.

Be patient with yourself. Come and go as you see fit. No one will tell you to stay away or don't go. You are free here.

Oh yeah, the freedom thing. The free will to do as you see fit, instead of waiting for someone to tell you what to do. You are allowed to be your authentic self here... Oh, no, don't get me started on that one!

satinka

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The TOPIC which may never be discussed!

by Terry in

question: how does the leadership of jehovah's witnesses instruct its members to prepare for the eventual elder care of its members?.

answer: it pretends it will never happen!.

is this responsible leadership or some kind of cognitive dissonant malfeasance?.

satinka

Terry, Terry, Terry. How soon you forget. Armageddon's coming any day now...any day...

any day...any day...any day...any day...any day now...

One day soon you will wake up and it will be here...any day...any day now...

Did I say that any day now, Armageddon is coming and no one will be old?

Skin as soft as in youth.

Any day...any day...any day...any day...any day now...

satinka

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New Book Published

by satinka in

i have been threatening to publish a book about growing up in the jw religion, then leaving as a mature adult.

well, it's 368 pages and it's done!.

introduction to the book.

satinka

Hi Bruja,

Thank you for your beautiful comment! It has been a long road of healing for me, too, as I was disfellowshipped in 2000. I know what you are saying, feeling loss from the community point of view, and feeling freedom from the cult on the other hand. I figure a lot of it has to do with the religion screwing up our otherwise healthy boundaries. The religion distorts the meaning of the family, as love from members is so conditional. Other families love each other through thick and thin, but not the jws. It's all about rules and standards and if you break a rule, you can be shunned, or marked or otherwise judged. In the organization we were taught to see ourselves through someone else's eyes. Our conscience wasn't truly our own. When we leave the religion, it is a big adjustment to find out who we really are as our authentic self got so lost in the religious maze.

The main thing is KNOW that we can find our way back. We can find out who we truly are on the inside by separating ourself from the religion and its dogmatic rules.

You are a courageous woman, Bruja! I applaud you!

Thanks for posting.

hugs

satinka

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New Book Published

by satinka in

i have been threatening to publish a book about growing up in the jw religion, then leaving as a mature adult.

well, it's 368 pages and it's done!.

introduction to the book.

satinka

Many people, after leaving the Jehovah's Witness religion, see themselves as "broken." I don't. I see all those who left the religion as individuals having the courage to grow into their own power. It takes courage and integrity to leave the religion because elders teach that leaving is "your failure." — failure to measure up to their man-made standards in some way. Your faith is somehow “defective.” But I see your courage and I see your leaving as your own personal growth step. You have outgrown the religion, like when you were young and had a pair of shoes that had grown too tight and are now causing discomfort.

To me, blindly following religious rules dictated by religious elders demonstrates a lack of free will. You see injustice of those rules and believe that you can no longer turn a blind eye or you would be living falsely. Following your true conscience takes strength, not cowardice. It is not your fault if a religious theology collides with your free will. It is your soul urging you to grow!

If you were disfellowshipped you may have noticed how the judicial committee became more concerned with "keeping the congregation clean" than caring about helping you work through your doubts. Nevertheless, you have survived the demonization and the shunning and are successfully rebuilding your life. You have discovered you are inherently equipped with all the tools you need to be well. People appear “out of the blue” to support your healthy self-directed decisions.

You recognize that you are free. So free, in fact, that you could choose bondage. You have the freedom to go back, but the question begs to be asked: is going back to a corrupt religion really your strong desire? "Pick up your cot and walk," is a scripture that immediately comes to mind, since you are no longer paralyzed by fear.

It takes courage to speak your truth. It also takes integrity. Some ex-members have written books, set up blogs and built websites as a way to speak their new truth. Many great videos have been recorded to share with the world. "Many will rove about and the truth will become abundant" is a scripture that takes on a whole new meaning!

It takes courage to speak about all the new things you are learning after leaving the organization. Things you would never have learned by staying, now that you think on your feet outside the religious box. Now you are self-directed and that feels positive and freeing!

You no longer live with the idea that one day you will do this or that. Maybe you may long to sky dive, hang glide, or whatever your passion. Now you follow your heart. You no longer live for some elusive future date to begin living your joy.

You have abandoned a religion that once kept you stuck. I cheer loudly for each of you!

I'll bet you can think of some other qualities that I missed that would show your growth upon leaving a patriarchal religion. By all means, validate your own growth! You are awesome people, living healed — and growing stronger every day!

satinka

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Does anyone remember what year...

by satinka in

jw
friends

does anyone remember what year the word "servant" was replaced with "overseer" as in circuit servant overseer, district servant overseer ... and up the hierarchal lineage of the jws?.

much appreciated,.

satinka.

satinka

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My adorable 5 year son explaining the meaning of life

by jwfacts in

i asked my son quite randomly before bed what he thinks the meaning of life is.

like always, his answer brought a smile to my face.

he said, "to have a great time .. to have fun and have friends ... and be happy.

satinka

Well done, Paul! What an adorable and SMART son!

I believe that children don't fear unless they have been taught to fear.

satinka