Merry Christmas and Happy New Year Bruja-del-Sol! Dreams are good, but only if you live in and for the present. It seems like you have had some important revelations on your own. If you can afford to talk with a counselor, it may help you to disover more WTBTS phobias that you may be carring.
If you want to help your husband understand more how you feel, I would recommend that he watch the following videos: Strategic Interactive Approach explained 2003 (1:23:23) and
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIDwXYACfmM&list=PL4092CCAFD7966428
What do you like to do? Have you searched the internet for activities where you currently live to meet locals who have similar interests as you and who may speak english? Do you know about www.meetup.com or http://ex-jehovahs-witnesses.meetup.com/? Unfortunately, their are no ex-JW meetup groups in Spain, but you could always start one.
Your written English is very good. Have you enrolled in Spanish classes at a local school or asked local school teachers, if you can help them teach English to Spanish students?
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert