I fell somewhere in the middle as well. I think that many stay in because when you are a JW, the JWs are your entire social network, and leaving or being df'd would be like being dropped by yourself in the middle of the ocean with no land in sight! I think that is one reason why I stayed as long as I did. I finally left because of the utter lack of love that I saw. And now that I have done just a tiny bit of research, and found this site, I don't think I will ever go back! I know too much that just does not add up now, and those are facts, not just my personal feelings about love.
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What kind of Witness were you?
by EmptyInside inthere always seemed to be some witnesses who seemed to be in it for the social aspect of it.
the ones who planned most of the gatherings and trips.
and the ones who got invited to the parties two states away.
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When you were a loyal dub, did you ever turn down sexual advances?
by asilentone inwhen i was a loyal dub, i have turned down some gorgeous women.
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I did, and I still do, I don't regret any of them but one. I can find many people attractive, but I cannot actually have the desire to have sex with someone unless I know them well, and I am falling in love with them. Sometimes I wish that I could! Things would be simpler! I have tried, really hard, but I just can't do it!
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Newbie: Roll Call ---- Oldies Returning: Roll Call
by cameo-d ini have noticed a lot of newbies lately.
(i also noticed that after being absent for a year happy1975 is making a return visit.).
so, if you are a brand spanking newbie, post here and tell us a little about your interests, your state, your new direction in life, your favorite things, whatever you want to say---this is your thread.. .
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Hey everybody, just poppin' in to say hi! And welcome to all the even newer newbies than me!!!!
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Another newbie... so to speak
by joeblow inhey... how's everyone?.
i'm a new guy here... so a bit about me.. i was raised as a jw.
my parents started studying when i was a baby, so it's all i knew growing up.
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Welcome Joe! I am so sorry that you were abused as a child. It is amazing to me just how many people it has happened to. I am also trying to juggle fading and family. I don't think I can do it much longer, it is like walking a tightrope all the time!! I hope that you will find comfort here in the fact that you are not alone! So many here have gone through much the same situation! Welcome! It is nice to meet you!
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Okay, but seriously, Alice In Wonderland. It was okay. Some neat scenes. Some neat special effects. I liked the Cheshire Cat. Part of it followed the original Disney cartoon, but much of it did not. If you like Tim Burton's movies, I would suggest it! I like his off the wall stuff!
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A question for all JWs, regarding women
by dgp inmy reason to ask this question was another thread by highdose, on whether people felt sorry for subjugated women in the organization.. with all the advances that women have undoubtedly made, is there any well-hidden anger among the sisters, for the role they have to play?
are there any complaints about it?
do you see the society responding to those complaints as, say, the catholic church sort of has, by allowing women to give the host at mass?
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I remember when I was younger, and just getting ready to get married, feeling that women really did get the short end of the stick. Then, after I got married, I realized it was much worse than I had first thought! I really hated it, and yes, I felt anger about it, and later, after going through a judicial committee, I felt absolute RAGE. I still feel angry, but a little better now that I don't feel a need to go back into that kind of life. But, I never felt that there was anything I could do to increase women's equality in the congregation. I felt completely helpless about the whole thing, that is until recently when I discovered that I could just GET OUT!!!!!! I hope that any woman that feels the same as I did will get out too!!
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Hmmm, the latest movie I have seen? Well, I believe it was a midnight showing.
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Hello..this is my story..
by Lozhasleft ini'm pleased to have found this site...i've browsed a little ...read quite a lot and gasped at some stories, giggled at the one liners and nodded in recognition of others' strong opinions and can relate to a great deal.. i'll try and keep my intro as brief as possible for anyone kind enough to listen.. i got involved with the witnesses in the late 70's in the uk.
i was in my early 20s and had had a love and fascination for the bible since my difficult childhood.
i soon brought my life into 'line' although it took a long time for me to pack up the smoking which didnt go down well in those days when 6 months of study should have been enough and if you hadnt cracked it then it was suggested that you were some kind of loser.... i reared my 4 children in the 'truth' as well as i could but i cant claim that we were a 'strong' family in their terms...just muddled along really..my husband at the time was a very difficult and abusive man and home life wasnt easy for any of us with his anger, jealousy and violence.
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Wow, Lozhasleft, that was a truly amazing and heartbreaking story! Thank you for being strong enough to share it. Many here have shared similar experiences of injustice within the organization, so we can definitely empathize with you! I think you will find love and comfort here. I am on this site every day. I find it to be enlightening, and comforting. I look forward to hearing more from you! Welcome, I am so sorry for your sad experience, and I am so glad that you have come here!
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How Wonderful
by dearone inan elder in my hall gave an experience of why it is so vital that we do not speak to disfellowshipped ones.
a sister who was disfellowshiped was of course not able to speak with her daughter or see her grandchildren.
it was difficult for the family to 'adhere to bible principles' but in time the mother/grandmother missed her family so much she returned to the truth.
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I agree with how ridiculous this is. It promotes wrong motives. All it succeeds in doing is showing how LITTLE love there is within this organization. Time out for a kid? Give me a break.
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What's your plans on the JW Memorial night?
by dissed infor the last 13 years, we haven't attended and didn't even care about it.
but since we became card carrying members of jwn in september, we have an interest in what are friends here on jwn are doing.. for us?
we will be watching 'dancing with the stars'.
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Ha ha Dissed! Thank you for answering that for me, it was really haunting me! LOL