Hey Jules- Welcome to the forum ! I know it's hard right now, but in time it will get easier. Sometimes we've got to go through a little hell to gain our freedom of mind. Your family is suffering an actual psychological , mental condition called " dissociative disorder " which occurs in many members of high control, mind control organizations like Scientology, Mormonism, and Jehovah's Witnesses. In other words- they cannot see " the forest through the trees " of what YOU are seeing right now due to their minds being totally manipulated and controlled by WT Society indoctrination tactics.
Some books that really assisted me when I exited the Witnesses about 14 years ago were Steve Hassan's books on cult mind control . One of the books is called " Releasing the Bonds- Empowering People to Think for Themselves " and a couple other books which helped me to understand HOW the WT Society was able to control my mind and the minds of others I knew. Then we start seeing these JW's as " captives of a concept " WT concept that is and how dangerous mind control tactics are when used by leaders of high control organizations like the WT Society and the others I mentioned. Then we begin to understand what prevents our JW friends and relatives from seeing the light like we do who have exited. Anyway Steve Hassan's website is : www.freedomofmind.com.
I wish you the best and we are here as a support to you and offer our unconditional friendship indeed. Hang in there friend, Peace out, Mr. Flipper