Forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person or whether they change or not. It has to do with your own healing and moving on. Also, just because you forgive doesnt mean you stop trying to right the wrongs.
Hermano
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Theocratic Warfare?
by outsmartthesystem ini think my wife might be employing a bit of theocratic warfare on me.
either that or i am being overly paranoid.
but both are definite possibilities.
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Hermano
You have reason to be concerned. Sounds like she's creating a bubble life separate from you. Maybe she felt alianated from you and now that you have voiced your apostate opinions she feels justified in pulling away. Maybe she's cementing her own little support group. It's also possible she's being advised by some to show loyalty to the Organization. It's possible that she thinks she has to keep the kids away from you so you don't corrupt them.
I'd recommend counseling. Also, don't think that the counselor will focus on the religion as the reason for all the problems. That's an easy mistake to fall into.
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Cognitive Dissonance Can Be A Good Thing!
by DT inmany of us have been disheartened by all the comments about the candace conti case from apologists that indicate cognitive dissonance at work.
some of them even seem to show a shocking lack of empathy.. this might be seen as evidence that even the most shocking revelations will have little or no effect on faithful witnesses.. i disagree.
i think this case is having a profound effect.. i think many witnesses have been under the impression that this kind of judgement is impossible.
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Hermano
Fifteen years I would've defended the Organization. It's what I was trained to do. It's the only thing I knew to do.
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The light keeps diminishing
by Slidin Fast intoday's wt says it all.
read this, it accurately portrays the last 50 years of fading light from the saddest bunch of con-men in history.. 15 to answer, imagine that you are reading a book by the light of a 100-watt bulb, but then the bulb fails.
since you are left in the dark, you immedi- ately notice what happened and replace the burned-out bulb with a new one.
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the influences of Satan’s world may cause our zeal to diminish little by little. If that happens, it is as if Satan succeeded in reducing 100-watt heartfelt zeal for Jehovah’s service to something less. If not alert, a Christian may not even notice the gradual change.
What they're really saying:
We're saying "jump" and some of you aren't jumping. This worries us cause we're losing our power even if it's ever so slowly. We're going to try to scare you back into our grip by telling you if you're not doing exactly what we say and how we say, Satan's gonna get you! -
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For now...all hope has faded
by outsmartthesystem inmy wife asked me if i believe that christ came to power in 1914. sadly this question shows how little she knows even about her own religion as she knows the heart of my problems with the society start with the 607 bc debacle.
obviously no 607 means no 1914. alas....the conversation eventually morphed and it got to the point where i decided to ask her a point blank question.
what would it take to get you to realize that your religion is false?
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Hermano
Dont give up hope Outsmartthesystem. Maybe you can switch gears and try to focus on fostering her personality and her self esteem. What type of things does she like to do? What does she enjoy? Does she have any hobbies or expressed interested in a certain subject, sport or activity? How is her health? How is her emotional health?
The better she feels about herself and the stronger her self-indentity the less she needs to rely on the group identity.
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From a currently serving elder: an open letter to the organization
by elderelite inthere are 1000's who who hate this religion who are stuck ....inside it.
we work against you, we use our position to convince and sway those that still drink your koolaid.
we feed info to authorities who chase you, we warn off potiential converts by directing them to the real truth.
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Hermano
Elderelite, I suspect you and others like who are still on the inside are more of a threat to the Watchtower than those of us on the outside.
While I was still in I had an elder once tell me that I should not feel guilty about providing for my family. If an "apostate" had said it, I would have dismissed it. Because and elder said it, I actually thought about it. It made me realize I was working way too much for the Watchtower and not enough for my family.
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CAN EVERYONE DO ME A FAVOUR?
by Mary ini haven't been on here much lately, but i read barb anderson's report on the court case in california the other day.
nice to see the borg finally getting what they deserve.. anyway, the daily mail has done a story about it and at the end you can give your comments.
i think there are a number of 'faithful witlesses' on there who are giving the "thumbs down" to any negative comments about the borg, including mine.
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JWs At My Door Today
by TOTH inso here i sat eating my father's day brunch and the knock at the door startled me.
i peaked and it was a man and teenaged boy in suits.
it was already like ninety degrees outside and they had on suit jackets....jws.
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That made my day!
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It took me a long time to write this...i'm staying.
by MsGrowingGirl20 init took me a long time to write this....i'm being brutally honest...i am still a reg pioneer...three sundays ago,i was praying and asking god for a sign or something because i was so confused...i told him exactly what i needed to see for me to believe.i was feeling terrible--crying and feeling sick because i was so confused.ten minutes after, i walked into the kingdom hall and to my surprise--my prayer was answered!
i soooo wasn't expecting it, even though i prayed.
so this is where almighty god wants me to be,ii've reasoned.
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Hermano
What would you do if you weren't afraid of dying at Armageddon? What would you do if you didn't feel guilty of displeasing God?
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How many JWs will leave the organization after viewing the Sparlock video? Estimate
by Iamallcool in.
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Hermano
It's a mistake to lump ALL witnesses in one bucket. I agree with breakfast of champions. The extremists will love it and will praise Jah. The majority won't care all that much. And some will awake to the fact that the organization has very little to do with God and a lot to do with control.