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i've been thinking about some of the posters i've met on the exjw boards these past couple of years and you came to mind as one of the most level-headed and balanced people i have encountered on this journey.. i appreciate your humor too.
we have not always agreed but what the hell, if life were just one head nodding "yes" after the other, we would still be in the tower.
Yeah, yeah....she is all warm and fuzzy now. But I had the privi....no...patien...no....chance to put up with her when she had litle one's in her immediate fold. Let me tell you, having all of them out from under that roof has sure changed someone's demeanor.
On a lighter note and coming from someone who knows you better than most (esp that hubby of yours) - I sure do miss ya. And words cannot do justice for how you handled an incident with me a couple of years ago....
Love ya.
i have personally had experience with this.
a long time friend committed suicide because of her husband and the problems they were having.
he abused her and ended up leaving her, the elders wouldn't help out much stating that it was a marital problem.. she couldn't cope with him leaving, she was extremely dependant on him, she felt the only way out was suicide.
My cousin (we were very close) jumped off of a bridge the day b4 Princess Di died when faced with re-df’g. Childhood friend used CO2 from his car when faced with choosing staying with his non-JW gf or being df’d (his mother was one of their precious 144).
You have hit on a topic that disturbs me mightily. The correlation in this org is so great – that it blows my (non-JW) wife’ mind.
Oh, and the best part – the double standard that is used with their remaining family after the act. "oh, they will inherit….He will understand and….." it’s all bs.
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my name is laurie fitzwater (formerly gendreau).
i was raised in fl and lived in bradenton.
i know a lot of people from sarasota as well.
When were you in FL? I have family that has been in the Brad area forever: the Simons (Wendi/Paul/Derek & Paul's parents). Last time I was there was ~5 years ago to bury Derek after he jumped off of that suspension bridge heading into Tampa....another borg casuality....long story. I used to go there every December (Xmas I call it now), and spent countless summers in one of the congs there.
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33 female iowa massage therapist happily married no children (yet).
anyone else?
31/male/married (today was a good day)/1 boy-#2 due this weekend/2 dogs/2 cats/southern New England/drill instructor
i've picked up a little about each of us on the db, but we're a reclusive little group, aren't we?.
well, my picture won't be going up any time soon, but i'll put out some personal information and hopefully others will too.
makes chatting more fun, don't you think?.
Somewhat quiet on this board, and still labeled as a nwbe - I also hail from the PeeDee state (SC), have one toddler, and one due any minute by my wife of seven years (the same one that I got whacked 4). I have two dogs, three cats (1 is AWOL right now), and was born in the Truth. I currently get my mail in New England.
Currently, my lament is my mother's inability to put the @#* that NY tells them to do behind her and just unconditionally love her grands. I have been listening to many excuses as to why she cannot come see her new grand enter the world ("no money, busy at home, kids need watering, the sky is falling, blah blah blah").
I enjoy playing with my son, remodeling my home, anything to do with sports, and saying my hi to my wfe when our paths cross on the stairs. I presently work with the night owls, so I peruse this while the rest of you are snoring softly. Keep up the good work in assisting those that have been wronged by the cult that we too were once trapped within.
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i have been meeting-free for a year now, (although i did attend the last memorial mainly out of curiosity).
i have learned enough now, since leaving "the truth" to know that i'm never going back.
but i was wondering how long it takes to get all of the shit out of your head?
If you take anything away from the whole life-altering experience that was served up to us in the JW: do not do to your kids what was done to you. The whole "compressed spring" speech that was run into the ground that was actually being done by the society themselves (see recent events on NBC that are eating up at their control) - is not what you should do with your offspring.
Let 'em be free. And hope that when they b/c curious about the JW, they look, laugh, and walk away.
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hey, i got a question... the jw's won't even let the men have beards for 'fear' that the 'image' will scare some of the people while going door-to-door (or at least that was the reason i was given why beards are bad)... why is it that they are being hypocritical (i know, hard to believe they are hypocrits huh?
) and allowing even potential child molesters from going door-to-door?
after all, if they don't want to stumble anyone with a beard, why would they allow someone to be stumbled with an accusation of child molestation hanging around them?
Why do they not do Bdays/Xmas/etc or ....try and avoid the fun things in life (the ones we have all found after waking up outside)??? Why - to stand out, be different and as much as possible.
Another way they trap everyone inside - we are so different - we must be chosen to be the one group that ....yadda yadda yadda.
BTW - my beard/goatee graced my face pretty darn quick after I was bamboozled outta there. My wife does not recognize me w/o in old pics now.
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my mother called me again to talk about dateline and the fall out at the cong.
she said the elder (or guy giving the talk-i am not sure if it was book study or a meeting) read a letter from the society saying: .
"it is all apostates who are doing this".
"This proves we are in the last days and Satan is after us...we are being persecuted"
Isn't it convenient that the society has that built-in response to criticism? Above any law - except when it is against them - and then it is persecution! Must be, we do no wrong. Esp when, missing two witnesses to this heinous act, will put a child together with the accused to work it out. Someone making policy went out and is going to earn their psyche degree courteous of Sally Struthers.
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just curious if your parents still have contact with you after you have been df'd/da'd.
mine have stood by w/strong convictions not to have contact w/me.
they have to have some being that i have kids that they want to see (but that is very minimal).
They avoided me like grim death until I made them grandparents. And then, they b/c all nice in a fake way to try and get to him. It was such a shame - I was exceptionally close to my mother and I (still)miss her horribly - as does she. My wife parents make up for it somewhat - but tis not the same.
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what is everyone's favorite movie?.
and why?.
mine is 'never been kissed' with drew barrymore because that was me in high school!!!!
After Goodfellas and Pulp Fiction....everything else seems to pail in comparison.
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