BourneIdentity, your thoughts are a valid point of view.
However, most JW elders wouldn't even step aside from responsibilities so that their barely adult disfellowshipped child could remain at home. I have met a fantastic couple at Tahoe who told the congregation otherwise on that subject when their son was sick and DF'ed, but that is rare.
Your view could possibly be more common as time goes on, more and more people tired of waiting on Paradise.
I hope so.