Against my better judgment I have decided to write lack of love life. I am so confused with someone right now. Here is my story and sorry if it is long. I met a boy (at this point, I do not think he’s a man) on this site. We hit it off, started talking on AIM and on the phone. The 1st or 2nd night we talked for about 6 hours on the phone. The next night 3 hours & for the most part our phone conversations lasted about an hour if not more each time we talked.
He was moving out to California because he got DF’ed this past year and he was moving to be with his dad & aunt. After talking, I found out he lied (nothing serious), about his weight, first time he said he was 5’11 and 200lbs. He came clean and said he was 5’11 and 235lbs. I told him that it was not a big deal, that personality was more important. This was last Monday I want to say. Well Tues. I sort of freaked out (he was coming to WI on Friday). I told him I didn’t want him to come, well I was PMSing and right before I talked to him my mom and I had a huge fight over me going to meetings.
He called me back, I apologized. (Here is where I think I went wrong, guys please feel free to correct me). He said he would call Wed. night after I thought about it and made sure that I still wanted him to come, well on Wed’s with work and school I put in twelve hour days, and I hosted an event for work…so I wasn’t done until 11. So I called him that morning and said, “Hey, this is the only time I will have free (and it was). But I really do want you to come, I’m sorry I freaked out, I was just nervous and insecure especially with the fight between my mom and me.” He said, “That’s ok.” I asked, “Do you still want to come?” He said, “Yes.” I did not hear from him at all that day. So on Thurs. I called him, no answer. I left a message in the morning saying that I was just wondering if he was still coming… no reply… so I called him that night around 8pm, I told him that I received Crisis of Conscience and I was excited to read it.
So Friday I called and said, “Hey, if you’re not coming, I understand. But can you at least text me and let me know if you are ok.” I text messaged him the same thing, he replied with a text, “I’m ok, call you ltr.” Nothing after that, so Saturday I called & left this message, “You’re not coming, that’s fine. Hope you have a safe trip. Yeah, Bye.”
Haven’t heard from him since. Sorry about it being long… but I am confused and a little bummed because he is one of the 1st guys that I have connected with about the religion and someone who understands where I am coming from… any ideas anyone? Please give constructive criticism....
collegegirl21
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Please Give Constructive Criticism
by collegegirl21 inagainst my better judgment i have decided to write lack of love life.
i am so confused with someone right now.
here is my story and sorry if it is long.
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ORANGEFATCAT HAS A BRAIN TUMOR
by orangefatcat inyes, it is so, that i have a brain tumor and i will be going to the hospital in about two hours.
i will ask my son richard to keep all of you posted.
i have all of you in my heart.
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collegegirl21
(((((OFC))))) My love is with you!
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I left!!!!
by Hawkeye inthis is my first posting on jwd!
i wrote out my disassociation letter.
i am sending many in the congregation copies of my letters exposing the fine "elders".
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collegegirl21
Welcome Hawkeye!!!!!!!
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Relationship with God
by dozy injust a general question , really.. i'm an active witness who is questioning & researching - unsure of any conclusions yet.
i've spoken to a couple of former apostates who have been reinstated as to why they returned (as i know that very few do) and the summary of their conclusions is given below.
i would appreciate your comments.. ...essentially they had a strong relationship with god and felt that this was the paramount purpose in life.
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collegegirl21
Personally, I think that I have just been so confused and things have been thrown at me that after I figure out my messed up life that I am going to start searching for God (as weird as that sounds). Because I think there is a god and I might even try going to different churches and whatnot... I guess it all just depends on what you want to think.
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Crazy for love?
by serendipity in.
what crazy things have you done for love or in search of love?
the craziest thing i've done is meet a guy in person who i found on an online dating site (after running a background check, of course).. .
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collegegirl21
I don't think I've done anything crazy for love... oh wait, I was 16 and I met a non-JW boy and when my parents found out I was sneaking out of the house to visit him, I moved in with him and disassociated myself. To me that's the most sane thing I did... although I reinstated 3.5 years later :(... and now I'm going to be leaving again, lol...
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Women, girls, ladies -- 5 biggest "turn on's" / "turn off's"
by logansrun inladies,.
in preperation for a class i'll be taking starting next month entitled "history of love, sex and marriage" i would like to probe your heart's desire to find out the 5 biggest turn on's and 5 biggest turn off's you find in men.
and well, hell, i also would just like to add to my general knowledge.
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collegegirl21
Another old school one from a while ago... but I like looking back into relationship stuff... Turn-ons: Confidence - but not cockiness Sense of Humor - one of the biggest for me Honesty - that one speaks for itself Stability Loyalty Turn-Offs: Cockiness Liars Cheaters Bad Hygiene Disprespectfulness Everybody add on... these old topics are a lot of fun!
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2nd Annual Apostabeercheesefest...my apologies!
by HadEnuf inhello all...haven't been here in a while...but just needed to drop in and let you all know that i won't be able to host the 2nd annual apostabeercheesefest this year.
i know...bummer.
it was so much fun at my house without the electricity or flush toilets wasn't it?
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collegegirl21
Yay!!!!!!! I love this sort of stuff.... its my job at school... I program events on campus..... so if you need any help.... I would love to come and help organize if you need anything :)
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What Things Irritated You While A Witness?
by minimus ini used to hate it when i'd listen to brother blow give his long winded comment about how we're all supposed to do this or that----and he was barely considered a witness......we had a few elders, and especially the po who would go overtime just because they could.
the po's bookstudy always went overtime.
45 minutes into the meeting he was still on paragraph 3. and he would read every scripture including the ones quoted!!!
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collegegirl21
It really irritated me to know how hypocritical it all was. Elders would preach come to the meetings and get involved... where were their wives? At home sleeping! And how they would talk about going out in service, when they could never make it out in service themselves. Oh, and how I was considered bad association, while the elders daugther was pregnant, but not bad association because she wasn't baptized.... And how they would go over time... the list goes on...
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Do you follow you own advice?
by Golf inpeople are so free about giving advice.
my question is, do you follow your own advice?
i have often quoted this scripture, "...do you, however, the one teaching someone else, not teach yourself?
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collegegirl21
I try to... but its easier said than done.
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Hello!
by shera13 ini admit i have been a lurker for a few months and now i can finally talk to u guys!
i want to thank you guys for your honesty on this site and your humor...my husband and i formally dissassociated ourselves from the darling watchtower a few months ago and your site helped us keep our chins up!
we particularly enjoy blondies weekly commentaries on the watchtower articles!
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collegegirl21
Welcome!!!!! Its nice to see new faces! :)