Virgochik

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  Not DF'd or shunned?

  by girasole in

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  has anyone else found that they were not treated as expected when they .

  " i was threatened and guilted and the whole gamut but i was .

  never disfellowshipped or counseled or even so much as visited by the .

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  Virgochik

  My experience is similar to yours, but I wasn't quite as explicit about my views. My Dad caught me alone one time (the kind of moments we all try to avoid) and broached the subject of my coming back to meetings. All I said was, "I just can't live like that. I think I'm a good person, and live my life the best I can and God will have to decide...but I just can't live with all the meetings and rules." He quietly said, "OK." That was it.

  Shortly after, I moved out of state. I truly believe my parents let their friends think I still go to meetings, and they tell themselves that I'm still a good person and trust Jehovah will spare me thru Armageddon. They come out for visits, and stay in our house, and nothing is too different, except we don't talk about religion.

  I think my moving away took the pressure off them to make any decisions about me, and maybe pressure from the Hall to shun me. I've always been surprised and so glad I haven't lost them, as I'm an only child and they are getting old. Maybe they hope this course will someday bring me back, by not cutting off ties. Who knows?
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  How do you anticipate the Watchtower's fall?

  by JH in

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  slowly and progressively, or rapidly after a specific date?.

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  Virgochik

  What Lill said makes an awful lot of sense. If they mess too much with the blood issue, they'll upset the elderly ones. But, as she pointed out, they seem to be laying the framework for "new understanding provided by Jehoopla."

  I think they may ease it in gently, and when our parents die off, there won't be many left, between deaths of the elderly ones, who are really their backbone now, and others getting disgusted and leaving.

  I rarely see a cargroup in my neighborhood now, but until somebody mentions it on the board, I really don't notice. I doubt anyone will even miss them when they dwindle away to nothing, unless something reminds the public..."Oh yeah, whatever happened to those pains in the *ass who used to bang on the door at supper time? Haven't seen them in years!"
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  "Are the rules that hard to follow?"

  by rebel8 in

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  often i hear jws claim that people leave the borg because they cannot follow the rules, implying that anyone who leaves lacks character, self control, and/or moral values.. often i hear jwd posters--me included--say the myriad of rules in the borg is one of (not the only) reason they would not follow the org.

  virgochick said it well in the "how do you feel about the name j----?

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  Virgochik

  Yes, the rules themselves are hard to follow, but an added complication is, you don't always know what the rules ARE, till you get the dirty look or the disapproving frown and head shake. This is typically for wearing something inappropriate, in somebody's personal opinion. And how would you know that, in advance?

  I think "Jehovah" or whatever God's real name is, gets blamed for all the Witnesses crapola, when they claim their rules come from him. I'm sure a lot of this is news to him!
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  How do you feel about the name Jehovah?

  by JWdaughter in

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  do you use it anymore?

  do you care?

  do you cringe when you hear it?

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  Virgochik

  When I pray, I pray to Jesus, who it's easy for me to feel close to. I perceive "Jehovah" as an entity of endless rules, punishment and difficult to please. Surely God isn't like that, but loving and forgiving? I get confused about how "Jehovah" and this disciplinarian personna could be the real God, who loves us so much. The name just makes me uncomfortable and brings back bad memories.
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  Society goes nuts--yet another "special" campaign for September!

  by sir82 in

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  in an earlier post here http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/114651/1.ashx i noted the society's "special campaign" for september, an "awake" magazine dedicated to the topic of evolution vs. creation.

  there is a "special campaign" to highlight that magazine all month.. got a call from our po last night.

  there is going to be yet another "special campaign" in september -- a new "kingdom news" tract.

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  Virgochik

  Juni, I remember the Special Cam-PAIN about this maybe being our final march around the walls, like the Israelites blowing their trumpets at Jericho. Everyone at the Service Meeting gasped when they said, "Brothers...who knows what this may signify! Could this be our final blowing of the trumpets?" or similar blablabla. It had to be in the late 70's, because I was still in high school. I rolled my eyes, but it did kind of send a chill through me. It was one of those moments when you wonder if they're right, this time!

  Guess they weren't!
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  In respect to headcovering, can you get away with a sheet of toilet paper??

  by Gill in

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  whose idea was it anywhere and is there any mention of it in any awake or bodgetower?.

  the idea, that women when taking the lead in anyway or praying should have something on their head as a sign of respect suddenly struck me as a sign of total disrespect!.

  i understand a woman may put anything on her head as a sign of respect to her superior male colleagues, including a used kleenex....i've seen it so don't doubt it!!.

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  Virgochik

  My Mom always carried a linen handkerchief in her purse. It was neatly folded and had small embroidered flowers on one corner.

  Mary, do the women have to remain seated so the post-it note doesn't sail off their hair? Haha.

  Funny story, Crumpet. What's a tea towel, is it what we Yanks call a kitchen towel?
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  What Excuses Did You Make To Get Out Of "Theocratic Activities"?

  by minimus in

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  as an elder, i always seemed to be at a meeting.

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  Virgochik

  When I was in school, I missed alot of meetings because I had "Caught that bug that's been going around." When mom stayed home with me, I don't think she minded missing either. And sometimes I really was sick with a virus, from being out late and tired and run down. Those meetings on school nights were brutal on a kid!
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  What Were You Doing When You Found Out about 9-11 5 Years Ago??

  by mama1119 in

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  everyone has a story about what they were doing and the emotions that followed after the twin towers were hit...what is your story?

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  Virgochik

  I was driving to work when the announcement came on the radio. I thought it was one of those radio talk show jokes, until I got to work and everyone was gathered in groups, all shocked.
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  <Happy birthday virgochik>

  by IP_SEC in

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  guess you really are virgo eh?

  happy bday!

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  Virgochik

  Thank you, all you kind people who wished me Happy Birthday! I just caught up on the posts and only now saw the well-wishes. Let me in turn wish the best of birthdays ever to Dido and exjw-perfectdaughter!

  Virgogirls rule!
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  Eve and Adam

  by MsMcDucket in

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  "lord, i have a problem.

  god asks, "what's the problem, eve?

  "i know that you created me and provided this beautiful garden and all.

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  Virgochik

  That's excellent, Mrs. McD! Love it! I think I'll pass it around at work to the girls tomorrow!